On friendships which cross age barriers
Developing friendships with those outside your age group can be rich, important and expansive.
Posted — UpdatedWhile Martha and I are separated by more than thirty years and many life experiences, those differences fall away when we compare favorite books, podcasts and stories. What a gift it is to swim in the same pool as Martha and the many others in their seventies, eighties and nineties I have the pleasure of meeting in the work that I do.
Like it or not, we segregate – especially in the United States -- along age lines. It happens unconsciously in our jobs or while volunteering in schools and neighborhoods and churches alongside the parents of kids our kids’ ages.
It can skew the landscape, or rather define what and who you see within it.
Annie Dillard once said, “How you spend your days is how you spend your lives.”
My husband, a hospitalist at Wake Med, recently remarked that one of the great benefits of his job is the breadth of patients he meets on a daily basis. “It doesn’t matter how young or old or educated or rich you are, some people just have ‘the good stuff.' I leave their hospital room feeling as if they have done more for me than me them.”
Brooks writes, “Understand that your suffering is a task that, if handled correctly, with the help of others, will lead to enlargement, not diminishment.”
Coming out of a version of my own valley, Brooks’ book resonates.
And my life is enlarging thanks to the likes of Martha Coffey, Alice Watkins, Martha Grove Hipskind, Libby Campbell and too many others to name here who now people the landscapes I notice and am drawn to.
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