Connect in small moments to help teens through troubling times
I sat down with Michelle Chachkes, a clinical social worker who specializes in working with teens and adults on managing stress and anxiety, to ask for ideas.
Posted — UpdatedBeing a teenager has always been hard, but the struggle for teenagers is even more difficult today. Teen anxiety, depression and suicidal thoughts are at an all time high, according to mental health professionals .
What can we do to help our teens during times of trouble? What are some strategies that we can use to help guide them through these uncertain times?
I sat down with Michelle Chachkes, a clinical social worker who specializes in working with teens and adults on managing stress and anxiety, to ask for ideas. Chachkes works with clients to develop self awareness strategies like mindfulness techniques and communication tools to support relationships, change thoughts and improve behaviors.
Although, there is much blame put on social media and devices for the much of the problem, the evidence is inconclusive on the matter.
This is more a problem of not feeling “good enough,” and this comes from pressure all around our teens. It is our job to help them interpret the pressures and create a more balanced perspective. (We must ) help our teens cultivate a strong sense of self amidst the varying messages they receive. Be present with them and look past some of the negative behaviors to understand what is driving them.
- Insecurity and negative self-talk
- Lack of sense of self, not having goals for themselves
- Little resiliency, the belief that they can solve their own problems and handle the failures
- Loss of social connectedness
- Stress from the many ideals they are trying to live up to
Model being “in the moment” and appreciating simple things. Help them to start creating a sense of self. Help them define what makes them interested and interesting.
Look at your own expectations and goals for them and make sure they are in alignment with who your child really is or what they need at the moment.
Listening to music and watching shows is an easy way to connect and have a common topic.
Be available for the small moments, and practice and eventually teach simple mindfulness strategies.
Stay calm and curious calm in a nonjudgmental way.
Focus on their interests and see if you can connect with them on these things. Or try something new together so you can learn it or experience it together
- A drastic change in their school performance
- Withdrawal from friends and activities
- Lack of enthusiasm, energy or motivation
- Indecision, lack of concentration or forgetfulness
- Changes in eating or sleeping patterns
- Extreme anger and problems with authority
- Alcohol or substance abuse
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