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Training for Baby: When did you share the news?

Posted October 4, 2011 8:26 p.m. EDT

First, I wanted to clarify last week’s column “How thin is too thin?” because I noticed it created some controversy.

Like most of my columns, I write it with humor in mind. I didn’t mean to offend anyone. I was just voicing my opinion about what would be too skinny for me.

If I stop eating chocolate for a month because I am afraid it will make me fat, I know that I have become entirely too obsessed with losing weight because I am denying myself something that I love. And something that puts me in a good mood!

If I can see my bones through my skin, I know that I am skinnier than I want to be. I just don’t look right when I am thinner. In high school, I was about 10 pounds lighter than I am now and people kept asking my mom if I had an eating disorder. That’s when I vowed never to lose that much weight again.

So, again I meant no harm. Just was saying what is too skinny for me! As long as you are healthy and your doctor is happy with you, then you are the perfect size!

Now, let’s talk about a happier topic: Pregnancy.

I was watching “How I Met Your Mother” a few weeks ago and Marshall and Lily were dealing with the issue of when to tell people they were expecting. It got me and my husband wondering about when to share our news – when we actually have news to share.

I’ve known couples who shared the news the minute they found out from the doctor. They were about three to four weeks along. Others have waited until the first trimester is over, just to be safe.

But who do you tell and when?

It seems to be a decision that is ultimately up to the couple.

I want those closest to me to know at the beginning because if something were to go wrong, I know they would be there for us and we would need them to be.

Moms, how long did you wait to share your baby news with those closest to you?

Kathy is a web producer, entertainment expert and concert photographer for She has written a manuscript about her life as an entertainment reporter and pop culture. Learn more about Kathy on her website. On Wednesdays here on Go Ask Mom, she's chronicling her efforts to lose weight before she and her husband start a family.