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Deciding To Leave An Abusive Relationship Can Be Difficult, but Necessary

Posted September 27, 2000 7:00 a.m. EDT

— Getting help is the first step to ending an abusive relationship. However, many women are finding that decision is a difficult one to make.

AWilson manis in jail, accused of killing his former wife and former girlfriend. A check of Keith Moore'scriminal recordshows a history of violence towards women.

Some say he could have been in jail earlierifsome of his former girlfriends decided to press charges against him for his mental and physical abuse.

One Fayetteville woman, who did not want to be identified, says she has been in three abusive relationships. She is trying to end her marriage of 14 months.

The woman says she has tried to get help from police -- even a restraining order -- against her abusive husband, but so far, it has not done any good.

"He has stalked me. I have him recorded threatening me," she says. "Nothing has been done except 'I'll talk to him.'"

Barbara Bosey, a clinical social worker, deals with dozens of abused women who face the same kinds of obstacles. She encourages victims to think of themselves first.

"I think they have to take matters in their own hands in terms of providing security for themselves," she says.

Fayetteville police say they deal with domestic abuse on a case by case basis. According to state law, if the victim has physical signs of abuse, police are required by law to make an arrest.