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Family, Friends Prepare to say Final Farewell to C.J. Wilkerson

Posted May 10, 2000 7:00 a.m. EDT

— The man charged with kidnapping C.J. Wilkerson may have finally broke four months of silence. Derrick Glover reportedly cut a deal with prosecutors to save his own life.

With the consent of C.J.'s family, prosecutors agreed to charge Glover with second-degree murder in exchange for information about where to find the body of the missing Wake Forest boy.

On the street where the 9-year-old lived, blue ribbons are everywhere. They had been symbols of hope that C.J. would come home safely. Now, they are symbols of healing.

Counselors spent Thursday at Rolesville Elementary, where they talked with C.J.'s classmates and teachers.

Even people whose lives did not cross C.J.'s directly have been affected by the tragedy.

Donna Snipes is a mother of three, and her 11-year-old has grappled with C.J.'s disappearance and death.

"He's just really struggled with why an adult would do something like this to a child. It's out of his realm of imagination," Snipes says.

Certified counselor Jocelyn King-De Lay says there is no one right way to talk to kids about C.J.

She says parents should:

  • Watch kids' non-verbal communication.
  • Remain sensitive to each child's individual reaction.
  • Open the lines of communication.
  • Do not gloss over feelings -- theirs or yours -- and do not be dishonest.

    "Let them know that they [can] have confidence in your love for them and your care for them, and you will be there in the event that they feel afraid, and that it's OK to feel afraid," King-De Lay advises.

    She also suggests this is a good time to talk about personal safety issues with children. andMichelle Singer