LESLIE BONEY: Dreams of a polite Christmas
Wednesday, Dec. 25, 2019 -- As we go into a contentious election year, what can we do to recover from our addiction to infliction of verbal harm? The first step to recovery is admitting we have a problem. Then we need to believe something can be done.
Posted — UpdatedI’m dreaming of a -- polite Christmas.
As we head into 2020, I’m nervous.
What’s the problem? Not too surprisingly, 57% of Americans blame social media more than anything else: it provides us a platform to be mean without looking someone in the eye. Next on the list is “the White House,” followed by “politicians in general,” “the news media,” and, a bit further down the list, “Hollywood celebrities.”
So as we go into a contentious election year, what can we do to recover from our addiction to infliction of verbal harm? The first step to recovery is admitting we have a problem. Check.
Then we need to believe something can be done. According to the “Civility in America” poll, 86% of us believe it “is possible to disagree in a civil way.”
Just to be clear, disagreeing civilly does not mean surrendering anybody’s principles. We will never agree on everything and let’s face it, life without disagreement would be boring. Friction slows us down and forces us to think. But when you get to the point where it’s metal on metal, sparks fly and it’s time to find some new brake pads.
I think we should consider applying three new brake pads to cushion our contempt:
· Admit it is possible that the beliefs of the person you disagree with are sincerely felt (even if you are convinced they are wrong).
· Admit that agreeing on something is better than agreeing on nothing. Doing something together is better than throwing grenades at each other.
· Find one thing you can agree on – even if it is small -- and get to work on that.
But how do you start? Some 62% of us say if an organization existed that made it easier for people to get involved in the fight against incivility, they would join it.
Who’s most likely to get excited about this work? According to polling, it’s people from Gen Z or millennials, parents with children under 18, and African Americans. Maybe that’s where you find the first few participants in your community’s efforts.
But there are bunches of people beyond those groups as well. Pretty much anyone who dreams of a polite Christmas.
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