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Baby Steps: Triggered

Christine is surprised by her own emotional response to a movie she used to enjoy.

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Christine Bowley
Christine Bowley

I am a sucker for a funny movie. In fact, more than half of the DVDs my husband and I own fall in that genre. Some of our favorites: Forgetting Sarah Marshall, Super Troopers, Office Space. We have no trouble watching the same ones over and over again. It’s like a short break from reality; a chance to embrace all things immature!

This week, I had a very different experience watching a comedy on television. It was one my husband and I have watched before and both enjoyed. I never realized how much my own life experiences affected the way I watched a movie until now. I just realized, the film totally changed because my life had taken a 180 since the last time I saw it.

The movie in question: Baby Mama. It stars Tina Fey as a career woman who spent her 20’s and early 30’s climbing the ladder at work rather than searching for a husband and settling down. She decides she wants a baby – with or without a life partner – and tries several tactics to get pregnant without success. The movie profiles her experience with the woman (Amy Poehler) that she eventually hires as a surrogate mother, when she finds out she is unable to carry a baby herself.

You can probably predict what’s coming…

My emotional juices started flowing right from the start! Tina Fey’s character barely reacts to the news that the doctor "doesn’t like [her] uterus" – but I sure did. She never even gets a real answer about why she is infertile. And suddenly, the comedy turned into a horror movie…at least for me.

I cried through the first 40 minutes or so before I decided to just change the channel. It was the first time I’ve really been triggered emotionally by something in my environment – and it probably won’t be the last. I don’t feel any lasting effects of this minor incident, but I might skip out on the movies about trying to get pregnant for the foreseeable future!

Christine is an associate producer at WRAL-TV, which includes research for 5 On Your Side and producing the 10 p.m. weekend newscasts on Fox50. She lives with her husband and three dogs. Christine is chronicling her experience as she and her husband struggle with infertility. Find her here on Fridays.

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