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Baby Steps: Feeling connected

Posted June 2, 2011 8:48 p.m. EDT

I can’t say enough about how good it feels to know we are not alone. My husband and I are learning that more and more as we meet and connect with others who are going through the same thing we are. And I know many of you out there feel the same.

Of late, we’ve both had occasions where we’ve connected with another person who is part of a couple that’s also suffering with infertility. In both cases, the stories were eerily similar to our own – same facts, same feelings. The experience is like looking in a mirror that shows the future. In these cases, both still had not found their way to the baby they were hoping for, but that doesn’t mean they weren’t happy or that there will be no happy ending.

I’m starting to think the road might be more important than the destination. In a lot of ways, isn’t that what having children is all about? Helping a child learn and grow … and doing the same yourself?

I’ll admit, it’s often hard to enjoy this ride we’re on but, in the end, we’ll become the people (and maybe the parents) we were meant to be.

For anyone else who’s been on this road before – what did you learn? I’d love to hear from you.

Christine is the weekday noon news producer at WRAL-TV. She lives with her husband and three dogs. Christine is chronicling her experience as she and her husband struggle with infertility. Find her here on Fridays.