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You should NEVER compromise on these 6 things in your marriage

Posted July 7

Chances are, you and your spouse have had a few disagreements. They probably stemmed from issues that were important to both of you, but both of you had your own opinion. Most of the time you come to a compromise — the healthiest way to overcome arguments.

If you want pizza for dinner and your spouse wants tacos, you’ll compromise, come to an agreement and move on. This is totally normal and great for your relationship, but what about the bigger things? Should you have to put your dream career on hold so your spouse can have theirs?

In your marriage, here are six things you should never compromise on:

1. Your values

If your spouse asks you to compromise your values, don’t. You’ve built your life around your core values, and it’s important to make sure nothing gets in the way of them.

If you swore you would never touch alcohol and your sweetie wants you to have a glass of wine, you shouldn’t compromise that promise you've made. Your spouse should respect the things that are most important to you instead of asking you to change.

2. Your family and friends

If your spouse is concerned that one of your friends might not be the best influence, you should probably take that into consideration because your sweetie has your best interest at heart. If they’re telling you that every one of your friends is the worst and you’re forbidden to spend any time with them, that's not healthy.

You need relationships outside of your marriage, especially family and close friends. Don’t compromise the important relationships, just help your spouse understand why they’re so important to you. Maybe your spouse will develop friendships with the people you care most about, too.

3. Your self-esteem

If your spouse consistently makes you feel less than the incredible person you are, you need to sit down and have a discussion about how to fix it. You should never compromise how you feel about yourself for anyone, including your spouse. Tell them how you feel and work together to make improvements.

4. Hopes, dreams and goals

Your spouse should be totally supportive of your hopes, dreams and goals. Don’t put them on hold for anyone, because you deserve to be happy and feel accomplished no matter what you’re doing.

On the other hand, you have to be supportive of your spouse’s goals as well. Marriage is a two-way street, and support is one of the biggest parts of making it work. Lift each other up and work toward your individual goals together.

5. Religious beliefs

If you participate in or have any religious beliefs, they’re probably very important to you. You should never have to compromise those beliefs unless you truly want to and feel it’s the best thing to do.

6. Your safety

Your marriage should be a safe place where you and your sweetheart can have fun, openly communicate and be completely in love. You should NEVER feel like your safety is compromised when you’re in a relationship, whether it’s your physical or emotional safety.

Marriage is all about compromising and figuring out what’s best for you and your honey, but don’t feel bad if there are certain things you won’t budge on. If it’s that important to you and you have a healthy marriage, your spouse won’t ask you to do anything you’re not comfortable with.

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