This mom’s honest selfie shows the not-so-glamorous side of breastfeeding
Posted August 16
Updated August 17
Breastfeeding is arguably one of the most natural things a woman can do, but the topic is fraught. Whether it’s where you can do it, whether you should do it, or how you do it, everyone seems to have an opinion. The image in many peoples’ minds is that breastfeeding is always a gorgeous, perfect experience that bonds women with their babies.
Remember when supermodel Gisele Bunchden posted a photo of herself breastfeeding, looking gorgeous and serene, as her glam squad made her even more beautiful?
That photo hit a nerve with many mothers, who say nursing a baby isn’t usually that glamorous.
Now, one brave new mom has shared some refreshingly honest selfies that show that the reality of breastfeeding can look a lot different than the idealized image. In honor of National Breastfeeding Week, mom and photographer Angela Burzo first shared the sweet snap below on July 30. In the caption, she wrote: "Trying to tackle this breastfeeding life. Serious power to the women who can and to the women who have the power to walk away."
Trying to tackle this breastfeeding life. Serious power to the women who can and to the women who have the power to walk away #breastfeeding #ayleeelizabethburzo #ayleeburzonewborn #newborn #motherhood #motherhoodunplugged #momlife #momof2 #momoftwo #motherof2 #motheroftwo #5daysold #nationalbreastfeedingweek
Then about a week later, Burzo shared a tearstained photo of herself attempting to breastfeed with a harsh dose of reality: Breastfeeding is beautiful and natural and easy-until it is not.
I love seeing all these beautiful women in their beautiful nursing clothes smiling down at their babes as they lovingly look up back at them hand in hand while breastfeeding away. That is not my reality, right now that is. This is real & as much as I want to stay strong and be the soldier I feel I can be I cannot hide the struggle that is BREASTFEEDING. Whether she is not latching on properly, whether I am not producing enough milk to keep up with her demand, whether my nipples might not be adequate, whether we confused her with having to give her a bottle after pumping….whatever it may be it has been an emotional & painful struggle. Today has been full of no naps, sucking and not eating, crying and frustrated parents. This photo depicts my reality of this Breastfeeding journey so far & that first latch & the pain I endure. Keeping it real. Thank you to all those women coming to my rescue even the times I didn't reach out. All your kind words & encouragement have been a blessing #nationalbreastfeedingweek #breastfeeding #ayleeburzo12daysold #fedisbest #inspire #keepingitreal #reality #thestruggleisreal #blessed #thankful #normalizebreastfeeding #reallife #realshit #breastmilk #breastfed #boobolution #nationalbreastfeedingmonth #nationalbreastfeedingawarenessmonth
"This is my reality right now," Burzo wrote on her post from Aug. 8. "This is real & as much as I want to stay strong and be the soldier I feel I can be I cannot hide the struggle that is BREASTFEEDING. Whether she is not latching on properly, whether I am not producing enough milk to keep up with her demand, whether my nipples might not be adequate, whether we confused her with having to give her a bottle after pumping . . . whatever it may be it has been an emotional & painful struggle."
The post has since received more than 7,000 likes and thousands of supportive comments. Clearly, many moms can relate to Burzo’s struggle.
When you read about women pumping for 10 hours a day to support other new moms (and one total rockstar pumping IN THE MIDDLE OF A MARATHON!), it’s easy to forget that breastfeeding isn’t easy or glamorous for everyone. So let Burzo’s post be a lesson to us all-let’s be kind to all new mothers, whether they’re nursing or not.