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Tales of an Educated Debutante: Love myself (and put that bikini top on)

Posted July 12

N.C. mom and writer Adrian H. Wood wears a bikini top for the first time - to the delight of her daughter.
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Editor's note: This article originally appeared on Tales of an Educated Debutante's Facebook page.

"Are you going swimming? Where is your shirt?"

These are questions of my daughter. She turns eight on Sunday and she only knows a mother that swims in a shirt. When had I become that person?

You haven't worn a bikini top in 20-something years.

Why not?

Your stomach hasn't seen the light of day since you were 30 pounds lighter.

Why not?

You used to be so confident, I tell myself.

I used to love myself.

Why does it matter? Does it even matter? Who cares?

She does.

The little girl that scrutinizes her mother at every step, every turn, every crossroad and yes, even every shirt.

So, today I took it off and I was more uneasy than I care to admit - ashamed almost. Pale belly, full breasts, thick torso. I haven't been that exposed on a beach since I became a mother. Why not?

It's that voice.

Adrian H. Wood, PhD, is a N.C. mom and writer who offers glimpses where satire meets truth, faith meets irony, despair meets joy and this educated debutante escapes the laundry, finds true meaning in graceful transparency regarding education, special needs, and the real life that is not always lovely, but worth sharing.

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  • James Marley Jul 12, 4:47 p.m.
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    While I applaud this mother for trying to be a good example to her daughter I believe there is a larger lesson to be taught here. Obviously this woman was covering up for a reason for so many years as so many people do as they age. Rather than just coming out saying this is me and I am proud, obviously that is not 100%. If it was, then why cover up all these years?

    Instead, don't accept get fat as the norm like many in our society do. Do something about it. It is never too late to change ones life. Yes life gets busy and more difficult as we get older, but those are only excuses as to why people get lazy when it comes to their own health.

    For me I realized this early on. I was once severally overweight, but now at 40 I have the body that any 21 yo would die for. I am in the best shape of my life and that was because I wanted to be a positive example for my two boys.

    So just don't accept being overweight, do something about it and show your daughter who is the real superwoman!