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Solo Mom: Little moments, lots of love

Posted April 18

Stacy Lamb

OK, moms (and dads), have you ever just watched your kids do something almost mundane and been taken aback by how much you love them?

I recently took my kids on a mini getaway to the Outer Banks. Just a couple of nights in Kitty Hawk, because, after paying for two kids in two weeks of track out camp, it seemed cheaper just to go away.  And necessary.

Everyone needs a break from reality every now and then, and we needed some family time away from the hustle and bustle of life.  

We spent probably more hours than necessary at Jockeys Ridge State Park. We love to be outside in general, and we are avid hikers. So we decided to walk the enormous dunes for miles (my knees are not thanking me for this decision!).

We found a quiet spot where we could see nothing but sand in every direction, and my kids went to work digging. No shovels, no buckets, no kite (well we did bring one, but digging was more attractive). They just dug hole after hole, burying themselves up to the waist, then chest, then neck as they got braver.

As I sat upwind of the flying sand, watching, I just had this overwhelming sense of love for these kids. Not the same awesome feeling when I watch them do "their thing," like my daughter singing her heart out on stage or my son passing another Tae Kwon Do belt test - but just the simple appreciation for who they are at heart.

And I realized I don't just love them, but I honestly LIKE these little people. I truly enjoy spending time with them ... not in a "forget my parenting duties" sort of way, but almost as if they are friends I have chosen to hang out with.

Because that's exactly what I was doing - spending time with my absolute favorite people. I'm a lucky mom for sure.

Stacy Lamb of Apex is the divorced mom of two. She is an active member and former organizer of Single Parents of the Triangle. Find her here monthly.

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