It’s pretty rare that I get a night off from being “Mom.”
OK, OK, none of us ever get a night OFF from being Mom, but I mean an adult night out without kids. And that’s fine. I’m really not complaining. Most of the time, my life revolves around my kids’ social lives anyway (dare I admit I am looking forward to the start of soccer season again, and getting to watch those games every weekend?!?!?).
I’m not sure if it’s a factor of that rarity or just a sign of getting oldER (I will never admit to being old), but according to my little darlings, when I DO have a night without them, I’m “doing it wrong.”
They’re probably right …
There was an evening, not too long ago, where both kids were out of the house overnight. There are a lot of places I could have gone to and a lot of friends who I would love to have seen. Ah, but it was Friday, and I was exhausted having worked a very full week (not to mention full-on mom duty all of the while!).
I stayed in with my boyfriend, also a single parent, enjoying a kid free night and we watched … drumroll please …”Finding Dory.”
Yes, we watched a kids movie without our kids. In our defense, all of the kids had already seen the movie without us and not once did we have to get up to clean up a spilled drink or refill someone’s popcorn.
A few weeks later, we dared leave the kids for another “adult” night. This time, we headed out to downtown Raleigh with some other single parent friends. Before you think we got too crazy partying downtown, let me tell you where we went: Marbles.
That’s right, the kids museum. Technically, it was adult night at Marbles – a 21 and up event. But what fun to spend the evening playing all of the kids games and not having to take turns with the kids or let them win!
My kids have really outgrown Marbles anyway, so I don’t get to go play those sorts of games anymore, even with them. They did get a kick out of making fun of their mom doing that stuff on a date night though!
So, maybe it’s not about me getting old … maybe (definitely) I’m still a kid at heart. Maybe it’s about my kids growing up and me clinging to the fun stuff they are starting to leave behind.
Or, maybe, I’m just too tired for the bar scene these days. Where do you go on your adult nights out? Inspire me (and maybe others). Share your ideas for your time out with friends/dates.
Stacy Lamb of Apex is the divorced mom of two. She is an active member and former organizer of Single Parents of the Triangle. Find her here monthly.