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Solo Mom: Bleary eyed parenting

Posted October 25

Stacy Lamb

I’m tired. And I’m tired of being tired.

I write this because I know I am not the only single parent who is tired. I know married parents are tired too. But us single moms and dads are a deeper kind of tired. We don’t get a break.

If you work, there is an end to your day. Yes, many of us (myself included), take work home to keep up.  But still, there is an end. You clock out. You hang up. You log off.  

No such “end” to parenting, especially by myself. I am logged in and on call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. I am doctor, chauffeur, ATM, tutor, coach, chef, chaperone, project manager, spider-catcher, and more.  And I don’t get to “tag out” and let dad handle the homework tonight or clean up after the sick kid this time or figure out how to get two kids to two different places at the same time. It’s all on me. And I wouldn’t want it any other way.

All this to say, fellow tired single parents, you’re not alone. That won’t actually relieve your tiredness, but, sometimes, knowing I’m not alone is what gets me through yet another exhausting day. We are all tired and we are all in this together. 

You’re not alone, and you’re a hero.

When I’m the most exhausted, I remind myself to take a good hard look at my kids. They’re smart, successful, happy and healthy. And, dare I say, they’re strong because I showed them how to be strong.

I may be tired, but I don’t ever give up.

Don’t give up. Take a look at your own happy child(ren). You too are raising good people, and you are their hero.

From one tired single parent to another: You are doing a great job, you are more than enough and you are awesome.  Thank you for raising good strong people.

Now go get some rest!

Stacy Lamb of Apex is the divorced mom of two. She is an active member and former organizer of Single Parents of the Triangle. Find her here monthly.

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