Every parent wishes for their kids to be happy and healthy and well-behaved. Those are no-brainers. Here’s a few other things I wish for, as a single mom:
Babysitting: This may seem obvious at first, but I’m not talking about watching my kids so I can go out. Every week, I drag my poor son along while his sister has a guitar lesson. It’s only a half hour lesson, so there’s no time to go back home or go anywhere fun. So he tags along, and I have to find new ways to keep him occupied each week. I just feel bad for the kid. This will just multiply in years to come as both kids get involved in more activities.
A handyman: Ha! I am actually very capable of fixing most household things myself, but I find myself doing a lot of “quick fixes” that I mean to come back to and REALLY fix …when I have the time. But I never seem to have the time.
Groceries: Speaking of time, grocery shopping with two young children can take away an entire afternoon. I never seem to be able to get all of my groceries at once, and I end up stopping on the way here or there to pick up those “two last things” I forgot. Plus the kids don’t exactly love being dragged to the store. We’d all rather be doing something fun together!
A clone: Yeah, of course, we all want a second self sometimes, right? This time of year in particular, when the kids both have parties at school for the holidays, I really wish I could be in two places at once. It’s already on me to take time off work when a child is sick of course, so I can’t very well take off TWO more afternoons to attend two school parties. It breaks my heart to hear that “all the other kids parents were there.” Even when I know that’s not true, I hate that my absence was noticed like that.
Sleep: This should be self-explanatory.
Hmmm…as a single mom, who has to do everything that a two parent household would normally do, it seems fair that my days should contain at least 48 hours, right? I think that, in the absence of a partner, I just need more time.
Happy holidays everyone!
Stacy Lamb of Apex is the divorced mom of two. She is an active member and former organizer of Single Parents of the Triangle. Find her here monthly on Wednesday.