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Sloane Heffernan: Feeling the burn

Posted June 10, 2013

My skin was red and tingling.

It’s that unmistakable feeling you get when you stay in the sun for just a bit too long. I was driving down the road with my three kids chatting in the back of the minivan when I realized that I had a sunburn.

It didn’t make sense. We hadn’t stayed at our neighborhood pool very long.

I thought back to the daunting process of applying sunscreen to the kids from head to toe. They wiggled, squirmed and complained about how long it was taking and then it dawned on me – I forgot to put sunscreen on myself!

I suddenly realized that my sunburn was an analogy for what life sometimes becomes when we have children. We put our kids first and our own needs get pushed aside.

We spend so much time lathering our little ones with love, affection and attention that we often forget to apply the same attention to ourselves.

And sometimes we don’t even notice it until it is too late. Until we get burned out - or in my case literally burned.

Sloane is a reporter and anchor for WRAL-TV and the mom of three. She writes monthly for Go Ask Mom.


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  • slappyh99 Jun 11, 2013

    @ thought_criminal. Obviously you have never tried to put sunscreen on three kids who are trying their best to get into the pool. They don’t understand the need for sunscreen and most of the time don’t want to cooperate. I also have three kids and trying to do this can be, as you put it, a bear. Thanks for the story Sloane. Unlike some people I completely understand what you are saying.

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  • excx Jun 11, 2013

    Heffernan: "...the daunting process of applying sunscreen to the kids..."

    Hyperbole much? Life in the modern upper middle-class world sure is a bear isn't it? I'd hate to hear what a mountain it is to climb to make dinner.

  • piety409 Jun 11, 2013

    Yes, we knowwwww!:-)

  • itsyoureternalsoul Jun 11, 2013

    Phew! for a second there I thought you were exercising. Do not fix perfection

  • JAT Jun 11, 2013

    Solarcaine Cool Aloe - requires no touching! Works miracles!

  • blueskyglass Jun 10, 2013

    Neosporin! Cover yourself with Neosporin immediately! It works wonders. It takes away the heat and usually keeps you from peeling. I stumbled upon this trick two summers ago, and I swear by it. I now keep it in our pool bag. You normally think of it for cuts and little burns, but it is a miracle-worker for sunburns. Family Dollar's cheaper version works great and saves bucks. I have been told to try vinegar, but it did not help me at all, and I smelled like pickles for a couple of days. It is better than Solarcaine and aloe vera combined! Give Neosporin a try!