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Sloane Heffernan: Beyond the facts

Posted May 13, 2013

“Never let the facts get in the way of a good story."

It’s something that we jokingly say in the news industry. It’s a joke because we live and breathe the facts. So it’s so liberating to be able to share my own thoughts and opinions, especially when it comes to a subject that I feel so passionate about: Being a mom.

I have three children. My oldest child is 8, my middle son is 6 and my baby girl is 2 years old. I work part-time at WRAL-TV and I’m a full-time mom the rest of the time. The fact is, I love both jobs and I feel very lucky that I get to do both.

This unique balance makes me very relatable to both my friends who are “working” moms and the ones who “stay at home.” I am often surprised that one is always quick to judge the other.

The "stay-at-home mom" cannot understand how the "working mom" can put her children in day care “all day long” while she works. “Why did she bother to have children, if she was never going to see them?” asks the “stay-at-home mom."

In turn, the "working moms" who put their kids in day care often feel the need to justify their decision.

“Little Bobby is so advanced thanks to the Montessori program. He’s only 2, but he is already learning how to use the computer and talk French.” OK, I made up the French part, but you know what I am talking about.

My friends who work outside of the home are equally as quick to judge the stay-at-home moms. They have this image of the stay-at-home moms kicking their feet up at play dates and sipping on lattes.

Yeah, on a good day that can happen, but most of the time it is laundry, bills, dinner and very limited adult/stimulating conversation for my friends who stay at home. And if the working moms were honest, they’d admit that they have their fair share of Starbucks and Facebook while on the job without a child whining for something in the background.

I just wish that we could all face the fact that regardless of whether someone is a stay-at-home mom or a working mom, we all struggle and we all hope that we make the “right” choices when it comes to raising our family.

If we could look beyond the facts, we might see that the person we are judging is someone who is a lot like us.

Sloane is a reporter and anchor for WRAL-TV and the mom of three. She'll begin writing monthly for Go Ask Mom starting today.



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  • jstewart3 May 15, 2013


  • sglover May 14, 2013

    Well said Sloane. Enjoy both of your worlds!