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  • bwu910 Dec 21, 2012

    Wow! Out of context and full of ..... They have been living together from New York to North Carolina since 1995, so where in the hell kidnapping come from?? Why shouldn't they be entitled to get officially married, their already common law. Have they considered the fact that he wanted to secure her?

  • djofraleigh Dec 21, 2012

    what did she want? His social security survivor's benefits? That should be tied to the number of years married even with the last wife.

    Caregiver laws should exist in NC that prevent them from marrying or being in the wills of those they care for. Are they?

  • fatkatts2 Dec 21, 2012

    people never cease to amaze me. Unreal.

  • mm23 Dec 21, 2012

    Vaughn Aiken said he was eager to visit North Carolina.
    "Hopefully I will be down there soon to go ahead and get him and see him and hug him and kiss him and tell him how much I love him," he said.

    Oh yeah, that shows real concern for your father. You are only in Virginia, not across the country! He is in the custody of Social Services and in his state of dememtia may be very upset due to the change of his routine/home. Concerned son, get yourself to North Carolina NOW and straighten this out!!

  • driverkid3 Dec 21, 2012

    I could not do that to another human. That is just downright evil. I worry about my elderly Aunt and Uncle, but they have 2 very loving, sharp eyed kids that keep an eye on them, and I am so glad of that.

  • Scubagirl Dec 21, 2012

    "Maybe this story has been updated since some people posted, but the son says they have been in a long term relationship. He mentions the father talking about it as long ago as 2006. So maybe she isn't just some stranger trying to prey on an elderly person.

    If true, then they should have married while he was still in possession of ALL his mental abilities. Looks very suspect now, especially since she SAID they were going to a doctors appointment and then never showed.

  • tran Dec 21, 2012

    This kind of thing is common. A "caregiver" ripped my dad off for nearly 10 grand before we were able to stop her. She didn't marry him but she had him signing checks and she was living large.

  • Scubagirl Dec 21, 2012

    "They are both kind of old to get married.

    ummmmmmmmmm, NO they are NOT kind of old to get married! Old people get married too ya know. Why do you think there's an age limit?

    HOWEVER, she was not trying to marry him for love I'd bet it was to take whatever items of his she could.

  • wildpig777 Dec 21, 2012


    she must be a lawyer? or a nc politician?

  • Gr8Fun Dec 21, 2012

    My husbands uncle remarried a relatively younger lady right after he was diagnosed with cancer. She had three kids from different fathers....we went to visit him right as things were appearing not so great. When we got there we had no idea had bad off he actually was. Didn't even look like him. She had someone coming over to change his will right after our visit - kind of rushing us out. They had the will changed less than 24 hours before his death to show that all of his life insurance policy and everything be given to her rather than his biological daughter. I inquired about potentially buying his motorcycle so someone in the family could have it (this was a day or two after his death) - she already had someone she knew on the way to look at it to buy it. She didn't have any sentimental connection with his belongings. So sad and unbelievable that these people actually exist.

  • xxxxxxxxxxxxx Dec 21, 2012

    Maybe this story has been updated since some people posted, but the son says they have been in a long term relationship. He mentions the father talking about it as long ago as 2006. So maybe she isn't just some stranger trying to prey on an elderly person.

  • Deb1003 Dec 21, 2012

    "They drove to Scotland Co?" I'm sure the man wasn't driving any part of that trip!

  • scrap0693 Dec 21, 2012

    If my Dad were getting fleeced I`d be down here not up in Virginia.This has been allowed to happen for years??No telling how much she has swindled.

  • Whatever Geez Dec 21, 2012

    That is the very reason why families should keep a very close watch on these so-call care-takers. They are taking their love ones for a ride.


    I agre...wonder why his son lives so far away? I would have him in a home close to me if it were my dad.

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  • vile garbage Dec 21, 2012

    Tryin' to get paid.

  • wildpig777 Dec 20, 2012

    you pray i become a millionare and have one of my homes on figure 8 island? great

  • eoglane Dec 20, 2012

    (wildpig777) I pray this happen to you family

  • DNCMom Dec 20, 2012

    Be aware of the company your parent/s keep/s. A long time male friend of my family (30+ years) was volunteering at hospice (a great thing to do) after retiring. The male friend and his wife did a few odd jobs for my mother who lived in another state. They would take her to the doctor a few times, pick up a prescription for her (not pay for it though), etc. - nice neighborly kinds of things. When my Mother died, I found out that the insurance policy beneficiary was changed from my name to his name shortly before her death. The policy was in my name over 35 years. I told him that money was needed for funeral arrangements-he never responded to me. I paid the entire amount.

  • wildpig777 Dec 20, 2012

    maybe she was crasy for him? so what john edwards did worse-- i say set her free at once.

  • sunshine1040 Dec 20, 2012

    Who made her a caregiver. Did anyone run a check on her before authorizing her to take this gentlemen anyplace. Folks look at who you are giving authority to care for your family members children and adults both

  • dontstopnow Dec 20, 2012

    A lot of crazy people inhabit this planet!

  • pja1357 Dec 20, 2012

    Thank goodness this attorney was paying attention and that he knew elder law!! Bravo to him for saving this man!! Too many people taking advantage of the elderly especially ones with dementia. I hope they put her away for a long time and that she can never care for anyone else.

  • whatdidusay Dec 20, 2012

    Being called a caregiver? Seems she only cared about herself.

  • ims1924 Dec 20, 2012

    I would hate to wake up one morning and learn that I had married something like in the picture.

    I would hate to wake up one morning and learn that I had married something that looks like the above photo. I would find someway to leave this earth fast.

  • STRAWBERRY LETTER 23 Dec 20, 2012

    Mr. Middle of the Road, love that! LOL!!!!!!!!!!


  • Mr. Middle of the Road Dec 20, 2012

    Hey folks, if when I am 83 some 25 year old kidnaps me and forces me to maryy, I don't care if I do have dementia, it was consentual!!

  • jetset Dec 20, 2012

    She really sounds like a low life. How unfortunate that someone would take advantage of an older "memory impaired" individual. But, there are many situations where older people are taken advantage of. This happened to my mother and father. A younger woman came into my parents home to take care of my mother that had Alzheimers. She seemed so nice and also we thought she was a Christian. Mama couldn't tell us what was going on, but this lady was hitting my father up for money right and left. She pounced on him like white on rice. He was snowed.......even to the point of him giving her credit cards. Even after Mama died, she called him and she came by and picked him up and he would withdraw money from the back. Unfortunately, my fahter kept all of this from us until very late! He almost went broke giving her this and that. I talked with law enforcement and they said as long as Daddy was "in his right mind" that there was nothing that could be done. It is and was disgrac

  • davidk_at_unc Dec 20, 2012

    "I highly doubt she was trying to marry him out of love. Most likely he had some money stashed somewhere." -- ALL HAIL ME

    Not necessarily. Judging by the pictures I wouldn't be surprised if just the Social Security survivor benefits alone would make it worth her while.

  • happymom Dec 20, 2012

    The arrest had nothing to do either person's age. The gentleman is a dementia patient who isn't deemed able to make decisions for himself because of the degree of his mental impairment. What the caregiver was attempting to do is considered abuse in the eyes of the law.

    And it should be.

  • danderson221 Dec 20, 2012

    Sounds like the caregiver needs some help herself.

  • pediatrician Dec 20, 2012

    ain't sayin she a golddigger, but she ain't messin w/ no broke.....

  • iamamesstoo Dec 20, 2012

    I wonder how much money he has in the bank....

  • BernsteinIII Dec 20, 2012

    But it was love....

  • Alexia.1 Dec 20, 2012

    Maybe they love each other. He might have dementia, but is it so bad that he's unable to decide if he wants to marry or not?

    It's an odd story, but I'm curious what law she broke. This is a new one for me.

  • goalflinger Dec 20, 2012

    and is she suffering from some form of dementia too...

  • goalflinger Dec 20, 2012

    Whose idea was it to get married? His?...or hers.

  • Rebelyell55 Dec 20, 2012

    I guess her plan didn't pan out. I know she old too, but pentality for abuse of our elderly needs review and more teeth put into punishment.

  • charmcclainlovesdogs2 Dec 20, 2012

    They should have charged the minister if he/she had married them. glad that did not happen.

  • Gr8Fun Dec 20, 2012

    I suppose she'd be entitled to some kind of assistance as a widow once he passes....shame to think that.

  • charmcclainlovesdogs2 Dec 20, 2012

    If age discrimination exist would this be age bigotry?


    I doubt that. Its always been that if the person (s) is of age then they can legally married. How long it last, will be up to the couple.

  • NCHighlander Dec 20, 2012

    "They are both kind of old to get married. gnewsome1"

    If age discrimination exist would this be age bigotry?

  • pat7 Dec 20, 2012

    he must be worth some money for her to do that ,Sick people out there

  • NCHighlander Dec 20, 2012

    Wow. Law enforcement has a lot to keep up with these days.
    Here is a rare post on any site. Great job by that attorney.

  • charmcclainlovesdogs2 Dec 20, 2012

    They prey on old people and get them to sign everything they own over to them and their children gets nothing.


    That is the very reason why families should keep a very close watch on these so-call care-takers. They are taking their love ones for a ride.

  • charmcclainlovesdogs2 Dec 20, 2012

    She want the money/

    She would not have been able to get her hands on it. His family member would have access. She needs a mental evaluation for herself.

  • charmcclainlovesdogs2 Dec 20, 2012

    Everybody's looking for love at the Holidays!


    Not me. I already have my love. Good luck in finding one. But be absolutely careful too. :)

  • jaydosse Dec 20, 2012

    Methinks our planet has veered off it's usual orbit. How else can all of these bizarre incidents that seem to occur regularly be explained??

  • Whatever Geez Dec 20, 2012

    68 and wanted for restraint? dang....maybe she has dementia too

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