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  • Dynol Yn Cael Ei Nov 30, 2012

    happymom - "He was out of the country... How exactly was he supposed to "see" the abuse from the other side of the planet?"

    He was home for a week and did nothing about children who appeared underweight and afraid of their mother, did nothing to replace their beds and did nothing to seek out the source of the smell of feces and urine in their rooms.

    That last count alone would have sent me seeking, if for no other reason than to get it clean and get rid of the smell.

  • Dynol Yn Cael Ei Nov 30, 2012

    hedgy_one - "Didn't they ever sit down for a meal together after he came home? I know he was only home for a week when he was arrested, but why hadn't he bought beds for the children during that time? Thrift stores have them at cheap prices! I don't think he should be held accountable for what happened when he wasn't there. How was he to know? But alarms should have begun going off when he returned home & saw the state of things!"

    All good comments, every single one.

  • Dynol Yn Cael Ei Nov 30, 2012

    I don't believe him.

  • kj90 Nov 30, 2012

    The mother took her frustrations out on the children, because he was in Afghanistan. The state trusted this couple to take care of these children. This woman was never cut out to be a mother not alone a stay at home mom. The dad seems to be into himself, rather than showing affection and sympathy for the children's ordeal. I don't care if this guy is former military, he needs to be held responsible and accountable. This guy could have been a truck driver for all I care. I would've been ashamed to show my face on T.V for this nonsense. I wonder how much Dr.Phil paid him to appear on his show and if that money is going to the kids in some form.

  • hedgy_one Nov 30, 2012

    Didn't they ever sit down for a meal together after he came home? I know he was only home for a week when he was arrested, but why hadn't he bought beds for the children during that time? Thrift stores have them at cheap prices! I don't think he should be held accountable for what happened when he wasn't there. How was he to know? But alarms should have begun going off when he returned home & saw the state of things!

  • happymom Nov 30, 2012

    I must be missing something. He was out of the country... How exactly was he supposed to "see" the abuse from the other side of the planet?

  • itsyoureternalsoul Nov 30, 2012

    Was it adopting Wards of the Court or the unhappy, unloved children he did not pick up on?

  • Pepe Silvia Nov 30, 2012

    And this statement: "I will get you back home. It's tough right now, but I love you and you will come home," he said. "I will fight tooth and nail. I will work 10 jobs to pay for a legal defense to get you home."

    Again, it's full of "I"s. Brad, this isn't about YOU! - monami

    Its just as full of "you"s... Since when is "I love you and will fight for you" a selfish statement?

  • nitabitasmith Nov 30, 2012

    Sad situation.

  • superman Nov 30, 2012

    DSS just doesnt pull children out of a home until they collect facts and feel they have a case. I feel sorry for him if he didnt see ANY red flags. I dont think the children are going to want anything to do with him now or later. A parent should protect their children and he just missed the boat completely. Instead of asking his x-wife questions why didnt he get the children alone and ask them? They were afraid of the woman and they certainly wouldnt say anything in front of her as to the way she treated them. He should be ashamed to show his face in public much less on national tv.

  • monami Nov 30, 2012

    "I missed a lot of flags, and I'm going to have to live with that," Brad Thill, a defense contractor from Cameron, said..on the TV talk show Dr. Phil."

    YOU have to live with that? WRONG FOCUS! THE KIDS are the ones who are now permanently damaged. Thill keeps defending himself, talking about himself. He's not talking about the KIDS! And "serving his country"? P-L-E-A-S-E! When you have children, you can't plead ignorance like this. You are responsible and accountable. "I didn't know....I believed her" - OMG, such excuses.

    And this statement: "I will get you back home. It's tough right now, but I love you and you will come home," he said. "I will fight tooth and nail. I will work 10 jobs to pay for a legal defense to get you home." Again, it's full of "I"s.

    Brad, this isn't about YOU! It's about what is best for them! And that is a home where they will be loved and cared for properly. But God knows how they can recover from this abuse. Too little too late.

  • Fuquay Resident Nov 30, 2012

    Just wait for the trial, the truth will come out then. There's a lot that's not being told. We are only hearing his side not the states side.

  • jackcdneh1017 Nov 30, 2012

    I cannot understand how this man missed the abuse because I have the benefit of 20/20 hindsight. Much of what went on is unimaginable in the cold light of the facts. No doubt his mind simply wouldnt allow him to realize the truth in much the same way that some pregnant women deny they are pregnant until the baby arrives. He was given believable answers to the concerns he had. He did stop the abuse the moment he returned home rushing to fill the cabinets and fridge with food. Even DSS felt that the situation was under control, not intervening for three weeks. This man is not responsible for what that woman did. He can only be held responsible for what he did or didn't do. He does not argue that he was misled and misinformed and that he should have seen what was actually going on. What more do you want?

  • babscash Nov 30, 2012

    AMEN foghat001. You are absolutely right! 100%. You self righteous people out here are soooo perfect in everything you do in life. Please keep your skeletons in the closet so no one ever finds out about some of your mistakes in life. Stop judging this man. He deserves better.

  • babscash Nov 30, 2012

    Don't blame him. Based on the Dr. Phil show, even CPS didn't pull the children out of the home immediately. Yes, there were signs...but not everyone reacts the same way and that's the part that bothers me. He trusted what his ex-wife was saying and the children.When these are things you never would suspect, you don't see the signs. Me on the other hand is suspicious of everything (not a great way to live my life) so I would have been all over it. But I'm 56 years old. So different when I was younger. The ex-wife is the problem and she is the only one that needs to be convicted. PERIOD!!

  • delilahk2000 Nov 29, 2012

    this is so st upid, he was not even home.....

  • Just Plain Common Sense Nov 29, 2012

    I think he was just that ignorant, trying to make a iving. If he sent her all that money, and she can't account for it, you can bet drugs were involved. Sad that these innocent kids were so tortured they could not even tell him. It happens...believe me, it happens. More than anybody knows but at least in today's world, people do care, and they do step up to the plate when they see something. In my day? Nobody cared; what happened to a child, nobody cared - nobody. Lots of people glad they grew up. Some did not make it at the hands of their EVIL MOTHER, just like this woman. Hope she rots in jail for the rest of her useless life.

  • foghat001 Nov 29, 2012

    anne-think a minute about what you posted - how in the world is he able to monitor his children from Afghanistan? he was trusting his wife to be a decent human being and to take care of them while he was gone - providing a living for them - I think he's a good guy that just was deceived and gullible - and he has to live with that, just like he said

  • cocker_mom Nov 29, 2012

    He saw, he knew, but he chose to rationalize it and believe her lies. It was easier for him to do so - especially when he was not living in the US. Now that it's been proven true - he knows he should have listened to that little voice telling him that the line she was giving him made no sense and he's trying to make up for it. Sad.

  • storchheim Nov 29, 2012

    How do you miss a 60 pound 14 yo? A skinny girl would weigh twice that.

  • anne53ozzy Nov 29, 2012

    He's the father of these kids and has a responsibilty for their welfare. I do not care where he was or has been or what his job was.

  • LovemyPirates Nov 29, 2012

    He wasn't charged with abuse the mother committed. She was charged for not recognizing and intervening in the abuse the mother committed. If you see abuse, you have to stop it.

  • Marty King Nov 29, 2012

    I see no reason why he was charged... I thought Fathers didn't have any rights anyways? All they are good for is their checkbooks in the eyes of Family Court.

  • foghat001 Nov 29, 2012

    Doubt a jury is going to go hard on the dad.

  • xfosnock Nov 29, 2012

    All you people talking bad about the dad..the courts during the divorce gave the mom custody of the children.

  • LANCER6 Nov 29, 2012

    He was home for 7 days!!! Being down range or serving in the Military doesn't excuse ignorance or stupidity.
    Glad he doesn't have my back...
    He could have stopped the abuse the day he walked in the door. Pray the children wil be able to overcome the terror of the past years.

  • Pseudonym Nov 29, 2012

    Why is HE being charged with the abuse that SHE did???

    I can understand the charges of failing to report the abuse, but straight-up abuse?

  • superman Nov 29, 2012

    He should have been ashamed to show his face on tv.

  • claygriffith01 Nov 29, 2012

    I keep seeing stories about this guy being charged but none about charges against the woman that actually committed the abuse. Why is everyone focused on blaming him and not asking what punishment she will get?

  • VW girl 2013 Nov 29, 2012

    He was overseas and serving his country while his ex-wife was starving & abusing these kids and he's in jail? I hope that he gets a chance to be a real dad to these kids and that they can all heal and that the ex-wife goes to prison for life!

  • Relic Nov 29, 2012

    If dumb was a crime this poor man would be a felon. He's either the most blatant liar ever or he's dumb as dirt. If he's not lying then he's to be pitied because he has to live with that. Meanwhile, my thoughts are with the kids.

  • superman Nov 29, 2012

    While his intentions might have been good he was a miserable failure. Whatever sentence they give her he should get his share too. The children deserve better. He should never be allowed to see or talk to them again. There is just no way he didnt know more than he is telling.

  • 12-21-12 Nov 29, 2012

    I dont believe him.

  • Scubagirl Nov 29, 2012

    You know, DHSS 'misses the red flags' ALL THE TIME leaving kids in homes to be abused. If they, who are trained to see them, can't how is someone not even in the home going to notice them for what they are? ESPECIALLY when he wasn't even in the country! I just don't think he should be on trial here.

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