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Mike H Nov 16, 6:24 p.m.
Wow, the local church must have been giving out hateraid. I don't in my wildest dreams believe that everyone here who went to college acted this piously. Kids in college already have intercourse; pretending that gender-segregated dorm rooms is going to encourage that is absurd. This is the 21st century, people.
charmcclainlovesdogs2 Nov 16, 4:29 p.m.
Have a great weekend all and surely be safe wherever you wander.
NiceNSmooth Nov 16, 4:28 p.m.
The old days would never have tolerated this. Why are colleges and universities allowing it now? Do they realize sex and illegal drug use is going on? Certain students that was raised right is not involved in this. They have morals and have respect for themselves.
ok... come back to this century!!
Do you mean the old days like 70s when it was free love and drugs at college?
carrboroyouth Nov 16, 4:27 p.m.
"The roommate knew about the roomie but did not have enough respect for herself to say NO to the guy. "
Again, your sexism is showing.
carrboroyouth Nov 16, 4:18 p.m.
"WHAT? Do they realize people are having free sex...in these dorms?"
Consensual sex in a dorm room is not illegal... so yes they do realize it. You ever heard of putting a sock on the doorknob?
charmcclainlovesdogs2 Nov 16, 4:16 p.m.
So, if it's important to protect the comfort of gay people (and I agree that it is), it's important to protect the comfort of straight people as well.
All that resides on a college/univ. campus should absolutely be protected and feel safe. All not just a certain group.
charmcclainlovesdogs2 Nov 16, 4:15 p.m.
Chancellor Holden Thorp said the move is vital to protecting the safety of UNC-Chapel Hill students.
The university certainly needs a new chancellor with his mind set of thinking. Would he want this on his own daughter or son? I think not. By the way, where is his morals and respect? Maybe he needs to be investigated to see what he is really up to. Wife be warned.
charmcclainlovesdogs2 Nov 16, 4:09 p.m.
"Gay and lesbian behavior
They can never be married in NC. So why all this?
carrboroyouth Nov 16, 4:07 p.m.
"The ladies there graduated still have morals and self-respect."
...but not the men? Always the fault of the females, eh?
charmcclainlovesdogs2 Nov 16, 4:05 p.m.
be an adult and could chose to go to school wherever they chose and you couldn't do a thing to stop it.
Sure thing. But the parents have a right not to be a financial support. Then what will the student do then. The man they sleep with will certainly not finance her.
charmcclainlovesdogs2 Nov 16, 4:03 p.m.
Next thing, you/we will be paying for abortions for Daddy's girl that was living with her boy friend!
Very good comment. But please add, the many abortions that will occur because of this casual sex. The man you are sleeping with on campus has no intentions of marry you ever. He has someone else you know nothing about.
charmcclainlovesdogs2 Nov 16, 4:01 p.m.
Maybe certain college age kids should consider not living on the campus that do not want other parties or opposite in their dorm. Communting back and forth would be a good idea and safe. Living with parents or an apartment.
charmcclainlovesdogs2 Nov 16, 3:59 p.m.
A father was bringing his daughter back to the dorm. When they arrived at her dorm, she unlocked her door, and they saw a girl and a boy in a sexual manner. They closed the door and return much later. I would have been embarassed. But it obviously did not bother this couple. The fathers daughter eventually found another place to live. That should not have happen at all. The roommate knew about the roomie but did not have enough respect for herself to say NO to the guy. This is what is going to happen, but just more and more of it. Parents be aware.
carrboroyouth Nov 16, 3:55 p.m.
To the parents saying "My child won't go to UNC now!"
First of all, 18 is not a child. You can sign legal docs, go to war, have an abortion.
Secondly, I'd be willing to bet that your "child" has already has sex by the time they graduate high school.
Thirdly, if they haven't lost it by high school, they likely will in four years of college, because even without same-sex room mates, students STILL sleepover in other peoples' dorms -- this happens all the time.
And finally, if you don't wish to have your student live in a room with a person of a different gender -- you DO NOT have to! They have to apply for it!
charmcclainlovesdogs2 Nov 16, 3:53 p.m.
when they feel constrained by "big government"?
Yep, that is how we got President Obama back in. LOL
charmcclainlovesdogs2 Nov 16, 3:50 p.m.
and all the same university housing policies will apply.
WHAT? Do they realize people are having free sex, doing illegal drugs etc. in these dorms? Don't they care? I guess not and that is very sad indeed.
charmcclainlovesdogs2 Nov 16, 3:46 p.m.
Gay or not its just pure wrong. The old days would never have tolerated this. Why are colleges and universities allowing it now? Do they realize sex and illegal drug use is going on? Certain students that was raised right is not involved in this. They have morals and have respect for themselves.
charmcclainlovesdogs2 Nov 16, 3:39 p.m.
Bennett College is still standing tall. This would never happen at this college. Thanks to the outstanding leaders they have. The ladies there graduated still have morals and self-respect. Thank you Bennett College, you still serve the community and NC well. You are a great example to all of us. Too bad many universities and college cannot see what you see and do.
charmcclainlovesdogs2 Nov 16, 3:35 p.m.
Maybe someone should send these comments to the board.
charmcclainlovesdogs2 Nov 16, 3:29 p.m.
So once you go to college/university, all that you were taught including having morals is out the window the second you step into the college scene. WOW! What is this world coming too. People they are mating in these dorms, and this is just not right. The board needs to wake up. Having RA's on the floor is just plain silly. They do nothing and report nothing. They need real mothers and fathers on these dorm floor. I betcha they would report. Then parents would feel safe in their daughters and sons attending college. Not worry about, sex, illegals drugs and heavens knows what else is lurking.
smegma Nov 16, 3:28 p.m.
if you're hetero can you get in on it? i'd rather room with a bunch of chicks anyday
jlh4jdj Nov 16, 3:26 p.m.
Ok I went to a Baptist funded college and all that meant was that we had to "not get caught" at certain hours or just use the end door at the end of the hallway, which made for a longer walk. So this has no bearing on students who will or will not do the dead. I do wonder why we have special rules to protect one group and not another. If a student came out and said they were uncomfortable because their roommate was gay and they are not, then they would be put down has being a hateful person. Most of my friends who are gay agree with me on this. It's only the people who want to sue who do not.
charmcclainlovesdogs2 Nov 16, 3:25 p.m.
Exactly what do the board mean by "making it safe'?
Mike H Nov 16, 3:25 p.m.
My goodness, there's a lot of arm flapping over this. I wonder if the people flapping their arms are the same one that get in an uproar when they feel constrained by "big government"?
I went to a university with gender non-specific housing, and I don't recall there being any more shenanigans than there was in "traditional" dorms.
And to JosephLawrence's comment ... contraception in dorm rooms is quite possibly the best taxpayer investment we can make for reducing teen pregnancy. It's a given fact that physical intimacy is going to take place in college and university residences.
charmcclainlovesdogs2 Nov 16, 3:21 p.m.
They may be 18 and up, but they are doing foolish things. Where is the morality? Who is on this board that made this outlandishe decision? You, the board is just asking for more trouble than you can handle. To the board, you don't mind your daughter being in a male's room, or or your son in a lady's room. Big mistake!
charmcclainlovesdogs2 Nov 16, 3:19 p.m.
. Some of my concerns is: rapes, unwanted pregnancies, sexual harrassment claims, possible more partying, alcohol, drugs? What is the BENEFIT of this new policy? Does it help to achieve better grades, HIGHER moral values?
Thanks for the outstanding comment. You think like I do. They are creating a disaster, and then how will they handle the aftermath?
charmcclainlovesdogs2 Nov 16, 3:00 p.m.
"It really is an issue of safety for our students.
The leaders obviously knows nothing. They should remember the young lady who life was taken in her dorm by a man in a college dorm in NC. Big mistake they are making. Who are they trying to please and why?
charmcclainlovesdogs2 Nov 16, 2:58 p.m.
allow students the option of living in the same dorm suite with students of the opposite sex.
I think this is just wrong. No man has any business in your dorm or the same as no young lady has any business in the men's dorm. When you are at home with your parents for example, do the man or young lady go into your bedroom? I think not. The same if you had your own place. Have respect for yourself.
Grumpy Old F__t Nov 16, 2:56 p.m.
Why don't you call it what it is...Soddom and Gomorrha on Mommie and Daddy's dime!
V Vet 72-75 Nov 16, 2:35 p.m.
Why not? The highest public tax paid office in the land approves of this kind of behavior.
josephlawrence43 Nov 16, 2:33 p.m.
ok--so how big a stockpile of contraceptives do you wnat in each dorm at taxpayer expense.?
sandim50 Nov 16, 1:58 p.m.
no, I am not a old foggy. Some of my concerns is: rapes, unwanted pregnancies, sexual harrassment claims, possible more partying, alcohol, drugs? What is the BENEFIT of this new policy? Does it help to achieve better grades, HIGHER moral values?
tgentry1005 Nov 16, 1:05 p.m.
Have all morals and sense of decency been lost? It is hard to believe a group of supposedly responsible adults would make a decision like this!!!!!! This decision is disgusting except for some out of control young people. Or is just about everyone out of control now?!?!?!
LuvLivingInCary Nov 16, 12:29 p.m.
nex thing you know they'll be poping out babies and where will they stay.
ladyblue Nov 16, 12:01 p.m.
well i hope they will also have a baby nursery incorporated in this deal..
NC Reader Nov 16, 11:44 a.m.
I am supportive of the right for a gay person to room with a person with whom he/she can be comfortable and feel safe. I also support the same right for a straight person. A straight guy might feel uncomfortable and threatened by rooming with a gay guy (someone who might be attracted to him), just as a woman might feel that way rooming with a straight guy. So, if it's important to protect the comfort of gay people (and I agree that it is), it's important to protect the comfort of straight people as well.
That being said, it seems to be more a problem when the "uncomfortable" roommate is a man. The straight women that I know who've had lesbian roommates haven't been bothered by it.
ggallagher5 Nov 16, 11:43 a.m.
Wow, how will this decision help anyone. Another one for the liberals and Obama. Going to hell in a hand basket!
Bartmeister Nov 16, 11:29 a.m.
Gender neutral? Is that the latest politically correct phrase now? What happened to co-ed?
ddm76 Nov 16, 10:39 a.m.
Wow! There sure are alot of prudes here, with their heads stuck in the dirt.
Billfisher Nov 16, 10:07 a.m.
What a terrible idea. Most of these guys think they're in love and want to live with a girl. They've yet to realize the beauty in her having to go home...
cmama Nov 16, 10:06 a.m.
I am confused as to how this helps gay, lesbian, etc since they were already rooming together. If the goal was to make it safer for them, maybe providing a dorm for them to register for would have been smarter. It does provide opportunity for heterosexual couples to room together!
UNCFarva Nov 16, 9:07 a.m.
Man this would have been great back then! Beats having to sneak out of the all girls dorm after curfew
Carolina Conservator Nov 16, 8:58 a.m.
This is not about discrimination but open-end permissive liberal policies that will facilitate, if not encourage, boy/girl,boy/boy and girl/girl sex in our college dorms. These are still Kids!who need direction and supervision not freedom to engage in immoral conduct in a state university facility!
RGMTRocks Nov 16, 8:49 a.m.
In all fairness, it sounds like the teacher may have phrased it indelicately. And let's not pretend education and conservative values are mutually exclusive, nor that conservatives and bigots are one and the same. It's the conservatives who attempt to shove their values on everyone who are the problem. They're the ones who can't handle it when people are different. Conservatives who are merely conservative themselves w/o pushing their values on others are already accepting of others and therefore don't really need to change once they get to college.
EXACTLY! - We believe in family, God and country and that everyone is entitled to their opinion. We don't bash others just because they don't agree. Too bad there are so many on both sides who do. I'm not a bigot and didn't raise my kids to be either. My daughter is arguably smarter than anyone in her class and can defend ANY opinion/argument she has quite intelligently. She'll be just fine in college and she wants to go to UNC!
dontstopnow Nov 15, 7:58 p.m.
Sorry but I would NOT pay for a child to go to college and room with the opposite sex. Now if they pay themselves for that education, have at it.
paulc3 Nov 15, 7:00 p.m.
Youngsters are going to hook up no matter what their living situation. Maybe this will bring to them to the realities of what it really means to be in a relationship and having to deal with the realities of living with each other.
SaveEnergyMan Nov 15, 6:54 p.m.
Learning to work and live with people with lifestyles and opinions is part of grwoing up. There are as many things to discriminate against as there are people. This policy may or may not help some students, but it denies a student that grew up in less than open culture the chance to see that most homosexual people are not all that different. The mission of the college is to teach students for the future.
robjustrob Nov 15, 6:37 p.m.
Let's try it again, without the spiteful censorship this time. I want my hetero kid to be able to choose a hetero roomie of the same sex. That would be fair and balanced. Get it?
robjustrob Nov 15, 6:28 p.m.
Predictably, many of you who screech Hate Speech!!! have totally missed the point. The point is, I want my hetero kid to That would be fair and balanced.
junkmail5 Nov 15, 6:22 p.m.
Just because you don't agree with someone's comments doesn't make that person ignorant- Malaki
That really depends on the comment actually.
If someone comments they think raising taxes is a good idea, that's an opinion and not (necessarily) ignorant depending what they have to support the idea.
If someone comments they think the earth is flat, that's pretty ignorant.
If someone comments that gay people are dangerous, that's in the second category of the two examples I gave.
Published: 2007-10-05 09:38:00
Updated: 2013-09-05 17:25:12