Resisting the rush to romance
Posted October 26
Their are a lot of pros to dating, and having a healthy relationship can make your life better in a number of ways. Although, sometimes rushing into a relationship with the wrong person can have the opposite effect.
Life can be especially hard when all of your friends are in relationships and you aren't. The worst of being single nowadays is not being able to go out without being asked why you aren't dating anyone. I've been there before, and at the end of the day I always felt ashamed, and wondered if I had some sort of defect. Eventually I began rushing into dating without having a clear image in my head of what I truly needed and wanted.
After a good amount of heartache, I finally realized that I needed to take a step back and reevaluate my life. I realized I was ruining my chances of meeting the right man because I kept forcing myself to date, even if it meant dating the wrong person. I was robbing myself of precious time to grow as an individual.
Why do people rush romance?
Why is it that so many people are obsessed with finding that one person who is supposedly meant for them? Maybe they are all in love with the idea of love, or perhaps they believe finding that special person will bring them the happiness they have been searching for.
So many people become bent on finding true romance that they fail to see the beautiful simplicity that comes from growing individually.
Fill your life bucket
Rushing into a relationship or moving too fast can cause a high amount of stress, and every so often, expectations arise that may not ever be fulfilled.
Imagine a bucket. This bucket symbolizes your life. What do you want to fill your bucket with? Perhaps "falling in love” is somewhere on your list of ideas. But before you decide, ask yourself: Does your love story have to happen right now? Can it wait?
Timing is key when it comes to falling in love. Letting things happen naturally and in their own time makes the relationship healthy, real and worth everything in the end.
In the meantime, filling your bucket with wonderful memories might serve as a better alternative than rushing into another failed relationship.
For instance, fill your bucket with memories of celebrating your mother's birthday with a surprise party or that time you went swimming with manatees, or even the moment when you hiked a mountain until you felt like your legs were going to fall off, but the view at the top was worth it.
Allow yourself the time you need to grow. Travel, discover yourself, find your passions and thrive off of yourself. Don't spend your time waiting for the man of your dreams to show up. Instead, indulge in adventure and allow yourself to grow.
Patience is key in waiting for the right person, and when the right moment comes, everything will fall into place the way it was meant to. In the meantime, enjoy all the spectacular things life has to offer you.
Reap the rewards
Bask yourself in the glory you will find by discovering the world and who you are. Your love story will happen when you least expect it to. When you focus on yourself and stop trying so hard to fall in love, you will see the world in a completely different light. You will see the endless opportunities life gives you and forget the empty feeling that something is missing.
At that point, when you reach that inner peace within yourself, the right person will walk your way. You will realize in the end, that the wait was worth it. Until then, keep holding on to patience and keep filling your bucket with beautiful things. Doing so will will inspire you to grow as a person and discover what you truly want before rushing into romance.