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Apex Twins' Birth Mother Expected to Return to U.S.; Visitation Rights Revoked

Posted January 5, 2007
Updated January 8, 2007

— The birth mother accused of kidnapping her twins from their adoptive family in Apex and fleeing to Canada is expected to return to the United States Monday.

Meanwhile, the mother, Allison Quets, has opened up about her relationship with the children – 17-month-old Holly and Tyler -- in an interview with The Ottawa Citizen.

“We have a real connection, a real bond. They recognize me. They know me – even the apartment in North Carolina,” Quets said. “… They are the joy of my life. They are everything to me.”

“I think of their faces. I think of their eyes. I think of how much they want to be with me, how much I know they want me to hold them,” she said. “And I can’t, because I’m not there.”

Florida courts have cut off visitation rights for Quets. A motion filed by U.S. attorneys to keep Quets, in a Canadian jail until her trial on international kidnapping charges said that she will not be allowed to see the twins when she returns to the U.S.

A disagreement over money nearly derailed the adoption before Quets allegedly kidnapped them from their adoptive parents and fled to Canada, an FBI agent said in an affidavit unsealed Thursday.

Quets initially sought to put only the male child up for adoption and talked to Denise and Kevin Needham about adopting him, FBI Agent Michael Sutton wrote.

But she opted to let the Needhams adopt both children after deciding she was incapable of raising any child. She told the Needhams they would have to pay her expenses, and the Needhams decided not to continue with the adoption, Sutton wrote.

Quets then located another couple, but decided not to go through with that adoption because she wouldn't be allowed to visit the children, according to Sutton. Ultimately, Quets returned to the Needhams because they would allow her to see Holly and Tyler, he said.

Quets has said she was in the midst of a postpartum illness when she gave the twins up for adoption. Her sister has said she almost immediately changed her mind about giving the children up and attempted to get them back.

Quets, who lives in Orlando, Fla., kept an apartment in nearby Durham so she could see the twins while she appealed the adoption. A custody agreement allowed Quets to take the children for a brief visit Dec. 22-24, but authorities said she never returned them.

An FBI warrant was issued for Quets' arrest after she failed to return the twins to the Needhams on Christmas Eve.

The FBI said an investigation indicated Quets crossed the Canadian border with the twins Dec. 23. She apparently spent five days tucked away with the twins at a bed and breakfast in Kingston, Ontario, before they were found on December 29 in Ottawa, Ontario.

Quets was released to the custody of two Canadian couples Thursday after almost $15,000 in bonds and cash were posted by Quets and the couples.

She will be staying with Mark Thompson, a retired police officer, and his wife Mary until Monday when she must report to Ottawa police and then return to the United States.

In arguing that Quets be released on bail, her lawyer, Jeff Schroeder, told Judge Charles Hackland that his client presents a low-flight risk. Schroeder said it has always been his client's intent to return to the United States to face charges there and to further pursue custody of her children.

"She's going to continue that fight," Shroeder said. "There is still an appeal in effect and that is what she intends to do Monday morning - voluntarily waive extradition and go back there and get her children back."

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  • latanya512 Jan 8, 2007

    I am with pvt4jc. Why are we still on this story? The kids are healthy and they are back with their parents. We have young women being murdered, children missing, and abuse all over and we are giving this story more energy then anything else. I am happy that the kids are safe and with the ones they should be with but lets move on. There are bigger issues then this.

  • mslisac363 Jan 8, 2007

    I was adopted and don't think when a mother gives her child away should be allowed to change her mind later on. The children are the ones hurt in the end. Also this mother could visit her children most adopted kids parents want allow this. My parents always allowed me to see my mother, but once a parent gives there child away it should not be reversed if the child is young and knows the other parents as mom and dad. A true mother could never sell her child or give them away. A mother always finds away to provide for their kids. I know I have for my two children.

  • hairkj Jan 8, 2007

    This is a very sad situation, but the children are with their "real parents". It takes more than giving birth alone to make someone a mother.

    Ms. Quets was 47 years old when she made this decision to give her children up for children for adoption because "she was unable to parent any child" per Ms. Quets. Since Ms. Quets was a more matured woman, she knew what she was doing when she signed the adoption papers to give up her children. IF she really wanted her children, she could have hired a NANNY to help out with the children until she got better... This woman did have the financial resource to hire a nanny... She made the adoption decision so she needs to learn to deal with it... My heart goes out to her but she made this choice.

    My heart is with the Needhams. I can only imagine all the pain they have been through. They are the "real" parents.. ( pray they will remain strong...

  • deerslayer Jan 8, 2007

    This is all so senseless.. Why is the news still following this story? The facts are clear; the birth mother wants her cake and eat to eat it too. She wants someone else to support her children while she still wants the glory as a mother. What is wrong with this picture? Hello...she should not have visitation rights because she kidnapped the kids that she gave up. This story is such a waste of time....

  • kstor33 Jan 7, 2007

    I don't understand something...someone help me out here. Alot comments mention her taking the kids back for the money. What money!? Why would she spend $400,000 to get them back for the money? Do y'all think she could have SOLD them for more than that? I don't get it!?

  • tadpole14 Jan 7, 2007

    what happened to the father?

  • IHave1-2 Jan 7, 2007

    Anyone who is looking at adoption in the present day should take a really hard look at adoptions from the past (1960s). This woman has rights that she blew off; I feel bad for her kids when they learn to understand what happened to them. I was stolen from a birth mother who was on a reservation. It only took a whopping 2.5 years to finalize this adoption as being 'legal' by the state of NC, when it should have taken less time... with 1 year for either party to change their minds (but neither party was completely informed of what was going on at the time). It is amazing how things have changed. It is not for me to point and judge this woman for relinquishing her rights; certainly she had good reason or else she would not have given up the precious angels. I just hope this doesn't mess up true open adoptions for future families. I'm glad the kids are safe.

  • dani1986pestilence Jan 7, 2007

    This is ridiculous. If she had ANY doubts about placing her twins for adoption, she shouldn't have done it. I recently placed my birthdaughter with a wonderful local family and we have a very great open adoption. This makes things harder for those of us who are trying to make open adoption a socially acceptable thing. All of the horrible media coverage because of the actions of ONE obviously mentally unstable birthmother just makes people distrust ALL birthmothers.

  • IseeDumbPeople Jan 7, 2007

    Seems to me like this women has a history of mental illness/depression and instability.

    I think the twins are better off with the adopted parents and I applaud the judge for taking away the vistation rights.

    I think continuing to have this birth mother invloved with the twins will only negatively affect the babies as they grow up, and could potentially affect the bond and the closeness the babies develope with their adopted parents.

  • jthiespowell Jan 7, 2007

    Well, whatever the case, there are better ways of going about it than kidnapping. She's committed a crime now. And why, if she thought she was an unfit mother, would she be a good one now? I think there is money involved. Sick. You have to take a test to get a drivers license, but almost anyone can have children......