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Slain Durham mom: Husband was 'trying to hurt me'

Posted July 27, 2011

— A Durham mother told 911 dispatchers that her husband wanted to hurt her about five hours before she was stabbed to death in a restaurant parking lot, according a call released Wednesday.

Amanda Mangum, 23, called 911 at 5:48 p.m. on July 17 and told a dispatcher with the Durham Police Department that her husband, Kenya Domon Mangum, had threatened her in their 1820 S. Miami Blvd. home.

"My husband, he was trying to hurt me. And my kids," said Amanda Mangum, her voice becoming frantic. (Her voice has been altered in the 911 call.)

"Is anybody injured?" the dispatcher asked.

"Not yet," she said.

The police dispatcher transferred her to a dispatcher for the Durham County Sheriff's Office, which has jurisdiction over the address she gave.

When asked if her husband had any weapons, Amanda Mangum told the Durham County dispatcher that there are knives in the house. She said she had walked away from the house, and Kenya Mangum was following her.

"I'm walking because he's following me. He left the kids by themselves, and he's following me," she said. "Please hurry, and send somebody before he hurts my babies."

The sheriff's office was called to the Mangum home at about 8 p.m., but no one was home when a deputy arrived. The deputy then saw a woman later identified as Amanda Mangum walking along U.S. Highway 70, and he stopped to check on her, authorities said.

The sheriff's office has declined to provide more information about that encounter for fear of jeopardizing the investigation of Amanda Mangum's death.

Kenya Mangum is accused of attacking his wife outside a KFC/Taco Bell at 1804 S. Miami Blvd. around 10:30 p.m., then driving off in a van with three of their four children, ages 8, 4 and 2. Police found the couple's children unharmed when they arrested Kenya Mangum, and they were all put in the custody of their grandmother who lives in Maryland.

Kenya Domon Mangum Durham mom called 911 before slaying

Wendy Rigsbee, who lives with Amanda Mangum's brother, Robert Magruder, said that she came to their house with police earlier that day and asked for a ride to get her children. She then went to a friend's house, and Kenya Mangum showed up at Rigsbee's home a short time later looking for his wife, Rigsbee said.

Neighbors said that they heard the couple arguing in the hours before Amanda Mangum's death, and when she left the house, her husband followed her in their van with the children inside.

They said they were unsure what the argument was about but noted that Amanda Mangum was holding an envelope and asked Kenya Mangum to give her the van so she could take the children somewhere.

Amanda Mangum began dating Kenya Mangum when she was 13 and had her first child at age 15, her family said. In December 2007, she took out a restraining order against Kenya Mangum, which expired after a year, according to Durham County court records.

Magruder said said he wishes authorities could have done something more for his sister, since she had called for help. He said the family knew his sister was having problems with Kenya Mangum but didn't know the extent of the alleged abuse until after her death.

"We tried to tell her to get away, but it's easier said than done when you are a woman in fear with four children. It's hard," Rigsbee said.


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  • familyfour Jul 28, 2011

    And, for the love of me, I do not know why abusers families refuse to see, admit, or help the person and children who are being abused. I love my children, but I don't let them beat up on people now, and will not support abuse in them as teens or adults.

    It is wrong! My ex's parents, to this day, do not admit the DV that occurred. And, that's fine, too. I also know how many times they have had to call LEO to their home to remove him....so, they don't have to admit a thing. That is proof enough for me that they know. They blamed me for "the first divorce in their family". I blamed them for not acknowledging what was happening and helping me do something about it. To this day I wonder if they really thought I should have stayed and tolerated DV for the sake of their good family name.
    They are such good people; it bothers me that they rationalize the situation that way. I know that is their child, but wrong is wrong....is it not!?

  • familyfour Jul 28, 2011

    At a Loss....I agree. Truly, it is a horrible place to be. I never saw myself ending up in a situation like that, but we never know what people we love will get into, either.

    As I stand on the other end, I know just how hard it is to "get out", when the words sound so plain and simple. When you have the threat and fear of life hanging over your head, and are in a controlling situation, it truly impacts the ability to act.

    I am happy, proud, and even disappointed in some of the efforts made on my part. We are responsible for our own safety, and the safety of our children. And, I have the utmost respect for LEO.

    The law does not always work the way it is intended, and an effort has to be made.

    I look back and clearly see how lucky I am. I found a way to get my "upper hand", though it was not easy, and it was the scariest time in my life...seeking safety and protection after getting out.

    Abusers do not like being told they cannot abuse their victim. Takes their power away.

  • melissasdickson Jul 27, 2011

    The name and the face just clicked for me, didn't Amanda work at the BP gas station near o2 Fitness on 54 in Chapel Hill? If so, I am so sorry that this happened to her. She was one of the sweetest, hard working people I had the pleasure of meeting.

  • AtALost Jul 27, 2011

    "Now...would you explain to me why your name is At A Lost?
    It's "at a loss". And you are, indeed at a loss."

    I set it up quickly years ago. Just needed something that wasn't in use.

    I'm at a loss because of a lot of things...revolving door justice, people who click links in strange emails, people who stay in abusive relationships, etc.

    The torment may not end when you leave, but it shows effort and the restraining order shows you feared for your life. If the order is violated, a jury won't blame you for taking matters into your own hands.

    I applaud you for getting out - hopefully sooner than later. People are responsible for their own safety. You can blame others for not acting on your behalf, but it doesn't mean you're right. The LEO saw her on hwy 70 and she was killed on Miami, so it seems she thought the threat had passed. Sad situation but the blame should be on her for not taking it seriously and the husband for committing the crime.

  • reincarnatedasme Jul 27, 2011

    The police in Durham have no clue how to handle this type of case until AFTER someone is hurt or killed. Domestic violence is a horrible crime and often goes unpunished. This guy is a menace that should never be on the streets again.

  • twc Jul 27, 2011

    Some women just don't understand, it is better to be the accused than to be the victim!

  • eoglane Jul 27, 2011

    They chase speeders because they were caught speeding or worse. However when you call the police their are not thousands out there to respond. They are few on the roads expecially at night. Overworked and not appreciated.

  • what_in_the____ Jul 27, 2011

    The sad part is, when there is REAL domestic violence going on, most females down-play what is really going on, & don't want him arrested, but when they feel as though they are being emotionally, mentally, & verbally abused, they expect police to arrest their boyfriends/husbands. What is crazy is that during the heat of the moment, police are called, there are signs of an assault have taken place, one person is charged but once it gets to court, these same couples are in what's called the "honeymoon" stage & try to drop the charges........ It's amazing how people always expect the police to be at their beck and call for every situation, but don't want to pay them for the actual jobs they do. Police officers are expected to be Lawyers, Judges, Doctors, Counselors, babysitters, taxi drivers, etc.... on every call they answer.

  • familyfour Jul 27, 2011

    If you're still allowing the person to come in contact with you, you shouldn't blame the leo for doing something you can't bring yourself to do.AtALost

    Again...not blaming them, just drawing attention to the fact that law doesn't always provide the protection it is meant to.

    And, I bring myself to do what I feel is right for all involved, and have brought myself into a situation where I have total control.

    Now...would you explain to me why your name is At A Lost?

    It's "at a loss". And you are, indeed at a loss.

    Yes. I will be the first to stand up and say GET OUT! When there are children involved, it takes on another level. The torment of not knowing what is going to happen when you leave is almost as bad as what happens when you are there. It doesn't stop because you leave. It only stops when you find your upper hand. I had to go to court to have the papers "stick". Not a nice place to be on the heels of leaving an abusive situation. Support was nonexistent.

  • MzBoogie Jul 27, 2011

    Good for you familyfour. Glad you were able to get out. God bless. Praying for the children and all involved.