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Defendant chatted online about killing Apex teen

Posted September 21, 2010
Updated September 22, 2010

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— Jurors hearing the murder trial of a man accused of killing an Apex teenager heard and read parts of online conversations Tuesday in which the defendant and at least one of his alleged accomplices appeared to be discussing plans for the crime.

Beth Whitney, a forensic computer examiner with the Wake County City-County Bureau of Identification, testified that she recovered fragments of several Internet chat transcripts. In some, Ryan Hare seemed to be talking about how his jealousy over his girlfriend's relationship with Matthew Silliman was the driving force behind the killing.

The chat excerpt, Whitney said, was between "f8lessshadow," whom she identified as Hare, and "akhanx47," identified as Aadil Khan, who is also charged in the case.

"Even if it doesn't look like I did it, do you think anyone would take a girl from me again?" f8lessshadow writes.

"Uh, probably not," writes akhanx47.

Hare is the first of four people charged in Silliman's Nov. 30, 2008, death to go to trial.

Prosecutors have characterized Hare as the mastermind behind an elaborate scheme to lure Silliman to an abandoned trailer in New Hill, where Silliman thought he was hiding from a man named Roger who was out to kill him.

It was there that authorities found Silliman's body on Dec. 2, 2008.

Whitney also read fragments of another chat transcript between Hare and Silliman about Hare's girlfriend, Allegra Dahlquist:

- f8lessshadow: Well, just so you're aware, if my entire life was to protect a girl as amazing as her for one moment, it would be worth it.
- f8lessshadow: Every breath would have been spent well.
- M3475H31LD: I really do understand.
- M3475H31LD: I hate what I did to you.
- f8lessshadow: I doubt anywhere near as much as I hate you for what happened.
- M3475H31LD: And I said I wanted to kill myself bu [sic] I can't put that financle [sic] burden on my parents.
- f8lessshadow: So if I can get Roger to do it
- f8lessshadow: Then it's perfect.

Chat transcripts focus of testimony Chat transcripts focus of testimony

Hare's defense attorney, Robert Padovano, has said Silliman had wanted to die and that his client's involvement in the death was in the form of assisted suicide, not murder.

Padovano could soon begin presenting evidence to support the claim. The state could rest its case as early as Wednesday.

If convicted of first-degree murder, Hare, 19, would be sentenced to life in prison without parole. Khan and another man, Drew Shaw, 18, are still awaiting trial on the same charge.

Dahlquist, also charged in the case, accepted a plea deal from the state in exchange for her testimony in Hare's trial. She is expected to be sentenced once the trial is over.

Khan had also pleaded guilty to lesser charges in the case, but prosecutors filed a motion last week to withdraw the deal, saying he has been uncooperative.

Padovano has said that Khan was the real mastermind in the case and that he was also jealous and felt betrayed because of Silliman's relationship with Khan's ex-girlfriend.

A transcript of Hare's conversation with Khan also appears to support that jealousy claim:

- akhanx47: It will probably hurt.
- akhanx47: The parts that cared for him as a friend.
- akhanx47: But oh well.
- akhanx47: He has it coming.
- f8lessshadow: That and the hurt from the fact that if he does it, you can't?
- akhanx47: You take my eye.
- akhanx47: I take your face.
- akhanx47: You take my tooth
- akhanx47: I take your jaw
- akhanx47: You take my girl
- akhanx47: I take your life
- akhanx47: Sweet justice?
- f8lessshadow: Nice code to live by.


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  • Wiser_now Sep 22, 2010

    ...interrogation video shows more and more what lousy rolemodels these parents were. Ryan's parents said that the search warrant from Feb 08 were full of lies. They told him he could not go back to school after he was suspended for a year.

    Why would you believe anything Ryan said? He's just trying to cover his actions.

  • Wiser_now Sep 22, 2010

    ... It shows the stupid ways people die by doing stupid things...

    WHY do we have to keep glorifying stupidity? There are too many people in the audience that will say "cool man, let me try that". Why give any one ideas?

  • WOW1979 Sep 22, 2010

    WHO CARES IF HE WAS SLEEPING OR NOT??? This defense attorney KNOWS he has NO chance. Wasting time!

  • WOW1979 Sep 22, 2010

    imyourhighness69 - That's what I am saying. She isn't attractive AT ALL! Not worth spending a night in jail let alone the rest of your life! Funny that her name is Allegra! Isn't that an allergy pill? I hope he is allergic to Bubba in prison! If not, he is going to be sore a lot!

  • iworkandpaytaxes Sep 22, 2010

    All this over that busted girl? Hare, if not already, will soon realize how much of a (blank) he is. Mr. Hare there are over 2 billion women in the world and that's the best you can do? I'll send her some letters jail.

  • xarabee Sep 22, 2010

    is it possible for one of these kids to be more warped than the others? how about Khan, who had no beef with Matt. Read those IMs above. He should stay locked up forever.

  • jackcdneh1017 Sep 22, 2010

    One can only be saddened by the fate of all these kids and their parents. One boy is dead all because of the stupid ideas of a couple of juvenile delinquents. It seems to me that people of high school age should know when there is something drastically wrong with the mind of one of their peers, like for example, Ryan Hare planning to murder someone. I notice that he insisted that he could not do it "by himself" he had to recruit others. Any one of these kids could have prevented this murder just by speaking up in the few days that Matt was missing. They are all guilty and should be punished to the maximum allowed by law.

  • xarabee Sep 22, 2010

    The interrogation video shows more and more what lousy rolemodels these parents were. Ryan's parents said that the search warrant from Feb 08 were full of lies. They told him he could not go back to school after he was suspended for a year. Way to go, Hare parents. Look what you have created.

  • Telecomtodd Sep 22, 2010

    The question I ask myself - what if this was my kid (I have 4). What would I do as a parent? Write-off the kid and pretend he/she's dead, visit and communicate regularly, or what? It's really bothering me to the point I would consider asking a professional for their input. As someone who has worked with youth for a long time, I can't get my arms around this whole situation, and specifically the parent's role. Often I'll see where a parent has fallen down on the job and helped the youth (and sometimes the parents) through a situation. If I was a clergyman, I would have difficulty offering a meaningful suggestion to the parents that wouldn't be hollow or appear to dodge the situation. WHAT A MESS.

  • andy2 Sep 22, 2010

    Assisted suicide? Is that the best this attorney can come up with? Is he crazy?