This is a touchy subject but I want to have a mature conversation from female and male perspective and even law enforcement that cruise thees boards.
I was thinking of my older sister and the events of her life since she left home many many years ago.
I started thinking about her and her FIRST ex husband, we will call him jerky/
So jerky used to like to beat on my sister and did so while she was pregnant, she had him jailed, good for her ! Thats when I moved to good Ol NC to help her out. She had their baby and so on, he gets out of jail and she takes him bac !
I asked her if she was stupid ? A man that will beat you while pregnant will NOT change in 4 months, and end up kiling her. She ignores me cause she's older and thinks she knows best.
One time my husband stepped infront of my sister as he was about to hit her and of course they thought it a good idea to have another child together. He continuous to hit on her and so on and so on.
NOW They move away from NC, IM stuck here now cause I married a raleigh boy,lol. My sister then divorces the jerky, and continues with her life with bad decisions
I dont understand this, we were raised to NEVER be hit by a man, our mother used to volunteer at the battered womens place and we would go and play with the kids of the victims so we knew what could happen and crazy these abusers are.
So Sometime later I found out that when she used to go to work, her jerky would lock the boys in the closet for the whole time with no food or anything for 8 to 12 hrs while he did NOTHING, he never worked to provide or anything. Once my sister found out he was doing this to the boys, she left him FINALLY
BUT here's my question and dont think ill of me but Im really questioning that what happened to her sons is really her fault as well since SHE knew she was letting an abusive person back into their life and they hadnt known each other very long for to be mentally controlled, ( beleve me, women in our family cannot be controlled,lol I just hubby think hes in control )
Her oldest had 5 yrs of rage therapy cause he would go balisitc, my sister was afraid to sleep at night in fear he would kill them.
Sometimes I just feel that if someone stays with someone who beats them after the first time, its like oh well
I KNOW I KNOW that sounds horrible BUT There is no excuse to stay with someone who hurts you, and dont play the oh its a mental issue, people who know they are being hit know its wrong and they know there is help,
I feel my sister is at fault for how her first 2 turned out with their rage cause she invited that environment back into their home.
I had been hit once in my life by a guy, he did it once, ONCE and I was gone
like i said she wasnt with him for very long for him to get his hooks into deep, the guy was an idiot with an iq of 70 maybe
maybe im not a nice person for thinking that i dont know, I was just thinking this outloud the other day during her impending 2nd divorce
how do you all feel about someone letting an abusive person to stay and it damages the kid, do you feel the person that allowed that person in, is responsible as well ?
