I've had a number of conversations recently with friends about women that somehow end up in relationships with men, relationshiops that are not healthy and, at times, downright abusive. Yet these women stay, make excuses for these men, say they love them, and even bring children into the situation.
Sometimes the women will even know going INTO the relationship that the men have a history of abuse but will still enter into the relationship, all the while making excuses such as "it's in the past", "he can change", "he loves ME, he didn't really love HER", ect.
The one that really and truly boggles my mind is the women that contact inmates LOOKING for a relationship with men they KNOW, beyond a shadow of a doubt, are locked up for violent offenses.
To me, it is very sad to witness women in these relationships and know there is nothing I can do to help. I know of several right now. One involves 4 children and it is extremely heartbreaking. Social services has been contacted numerous times but until the woman is ready to make the change, there isn't much that can be done. 2 of the children have been removed, 2 others remain.
And I could go on and on. It just boggles my mind why women stay in these types of situations. I can understand why they would find themselves in the situation to begin with. Everyone can wear a mask for a short period of time. Just look at Ted Bundy. He was good looking, charming, and had everyone fooled. But no one can wear a mask forever. It has to come off at some point. At that point is when I can not understand staying. Especially if I have a family to protect.
LEAVE.
GET OUT.
But these women all make excuses. He'll change. I love him. He's different now.
I didn't mean for the tone of the blog to come across as it was the fault of the women, because I know it's not. Men shouldn't abuse, period. And there are some that are VERY good at hiding their true selves until they have you. But there are also some women that go into an abusive relationship knowing the man has a history of abusive relationships yet choose to enter into a relationship anyway, that's what I don't understand
