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Lynda Loveland: Transitions

Posted June 25, 2014
Updated June 26, 2014

Lynda Loveland

Things are about to change at my house.

Simply put, my oldest daughter is about to start middle school. MIDDLE SCHOOL!!!

Feel free to advise because it scares the living daylights outta me! That’s when … EVERYTHING starts! No more acting like a kid, she’ll be ramping up to adulthood!

It’s actually sort of already in progress. I’ve noticed we’ve been having more non-kid-like conversations. She’s taking more responsibility and she seems more mature. I feel like I’m seeing a whole different side of her. She’s becoming more of a companion instead of someone I constantly have to look out for.

Don’t get me wrong: She still has her moments where she goes crashing back down into single digit behavior. But, generally speaking, she’s growing up. It’s so true what parents with grown children tell you: "Enjoy them now because they’ll be gone before you know it.”

Lynda is the mom of three and co-anchor of WRAL News on FOX 50 weekday mornings. Find her here on Thursdays and keep up with her on Facebook

 

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  • SaveEnergyMan Jun 27, 2014

    We're two years into MS. Their circle of friends is SO important. Try to get her into the higher level classes where the kids have parents that care. That way you help to pick who she spends the day with. We changed schools to a better crowd and mine is now on the A honor roll.

    I can't think of anyone who enjoyed MS, so feel free to share your experiences during a tough moment - it will pass and life will be better in HS for her.

  • Diana Barden Jun 26, 2014
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    Bullies abound in MS so be ready for tears and fears. Make sure she knows that you are there for her no matter what and that you have her back when it comes to dealing with the school should the need arise. If you haven't had the talk yet, the birds and bees need to be discussed as do drugs, alcohol and riding in cars with people you shouldn't. Ask questions, know who her friends are- be the cool parent and have them at your house ALOT- that way you get to know the kids, the parents and the bonus is you KNOW what they are doing.

  • OzzzMan Jun 26, 2014

    Read this and you will understand what I and saying.

    http://www.redbookmag.com/kids-family/advice/raising-a-teenager

  • OzzzMan Jun 26, 2014

    You will ask yourself, where did my little girl go? You will have about ten years, until she returns.

  • Sarah Hall Jun 26, 2014
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    Thank you guys for all of these great comments! I'm two years away from middle school for my older daughter and I'm tearing up reading all of your advice!

    Sarah (Go Ask Mom editor)

  • Karen Orndorff Jun 26, 2014
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    You are just beginning, wait till they go away to college and it tears your heart out. Yes time goes by quickly spend as much quality time as you can with them now.

  • Southern Girl Jun 26, 2014

    She was and is one of my vey favorites. I was sorry when she went to radio, but so happy she is back on WRAL!! Best of luck to you, Linda.

  • mom2kids71 Jun 26, 2014

    I ditto all these comments. I have a just-graduated middle-schooler and one that will be headed there in another year, both girls. These years can be both difficult and a blessing. Bodies developing, hormones changing. Be available for listening. I have always told my girls they can come to me for anything - no topic off limits. Doesn't mean I will agree or automatically disagree....but I go in with an open mind and heart.

  • Ashley Porter Jun 26, 2014
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    Love, communication and teach her not to take herself too seriously. For MS girls every day is like a life changing event. Teach her that "this too shall pass" and nothing that happens is "the end of the world", it just FEELS like that in the moment. Validate her feelings then steer her off the ledge.

  • davesunc Jun 26, 2014

    My wife and I raised 2 boys and 2 girls through these years as the youngest one is now 21. Girls at this age are very difficult at times. One day, to use their words from back in the day, they were BFF's and the next day they hated that same person. Girls at that age can be so mean and even vicious at times. Advice? Communicate and ask where they are going with whom and when. My kids knew the fastest way to grounding was being somewhere and with someone we had not been informed about.
    Good Lick! See you on the other side!

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