Lynda Loveland: Snarky siblings
Posted September 18, 2013
It’s two against one at my house. My kids are six, eight and ten. The boy’s in the middle. My oldest is a tomboy through and through. My son actually said something very sweet about her the other day. He said Campbell is his best friend. Given that tidbit of knowledge, guess who gets left out.
The older two are always ganging up on my youngest, Carys. They tease her for being girly, being ugly, being stupid, pretty much just being. It makes her so upset.
She usually gets back at them by tattling. She tries to be proactive by being super nice to them. For example, when she got to get a toy from the prize box at school, she chose a three-way popsicle maker she could share with her brother and sister.
She’s a super sweet girl and very generous. She’s always giving them things, making them things or offering to do things for them. She’s like that with her friends too. She has a huge heart and is very sensitive. It absolutely kills me when her older brother and sister are mean to her.
The minor battles I try to let them settle on their own, other times I step in. They probably think I’m playing favorites but what the heck am I supposed to do?
I tell the older ones that Carys looks up to them and just wants to be their friend, blah, blah, blah. That’s about as appetizing to them as liver and onions. I don’t know what to do without creating a bigger divide. Any advice?