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Lynda Loveland: Simple manners

Posted August 20, 2014

Lynda Loveland

Kids have a lot to learn while they’re growing up, I get that. But there’s one thing that parents can’t skimp on teaching: Manners!

My family recently took a trip to Florida, and I was shocked by the lack of simple, common courtesies by children and adults alike! For example: Waiting to get on the elevator until everyone’s gotten off, waiting your turn in line and a thank you where appropriate.

Let me do a disclaimer: My kids are certainly NOT perfect, nor am I a perfect parent/person. But they SEE me practicing good manners and HEAR me telling them to do the same all of the time.

When I see parents modeling bad/rude/disrespectful behavior in front of their kids, I just want to go through the roof! How do their kids stand a chance?

We all have to live here together. How about we not make it a teeth grinding experience?

Lynda is the mom of three and co-anchor of the WRAL-TV morning news on Fox 50. Find her here on Thursdays and on Facebook.


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  • nativeNCgrl Aug 22, 2014

    As a mother of a just turned 4 year old and soon to be newborn, I can't agree more that manners are important. I teach and model the behavior constantly. My 4 year old isn't perfect, but it made me glad that he does so well. I got many complements from his birthday party, as he said thank you sincerely, enthusiastically, and without my insistence to the appropriate person for every single gift. Here's hoping he turns out to be a gracious and kind adult!

  • ewester Aug 22, 2014

    People need to remember that ill mannered children grow up to be ill mannered adults. One of the best feelings I get is when someone comments on my children and their manners. And they are adults and I still get comments on them. My son has children and I see him teaching him 2 year old manners now. It helps me realize I did somethings right - not everything but at least that.

  • Pete Knowles Aug 22, 2014
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    Pam is on NBC 17 and not ABC 11.

  • Ann Hoskins Aug 21, 2014
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    Preach it! I remember when I did carpool and parents would 'jump in line' as if their schedule were more important, somehow (nice example). Also, how they talk to, or about teachers or other authority figures teaches the kids about how they are to respect authority. Very frustrating to watch. I did point it out to my kids as an example of what NOT to do.

  • 50s Child Aug 21, 2014

    I remind young people that it's possible the only good thing to happen to someone that day might be that you held a door for him, or let him in in traffic, or let him with his one item go ahead of you and your full grocery cart.

  • lec02572 Aug 21, 2014

    It doesn't cost a thing to be nice. When I would see children or adults being disrespectful, rude, or misbehaving, I would tell my children that obviously they had no "home training" while growing up and we didn't act like that. I am proud to say that all of my children have grown up respecting the rights of others and are teaching their children to be respectful of others. Open doors for other, respect elders, and just be kind to others. Its not too much to ask.

  • Deb Rodgers Aug 21, 2014
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    Pam is now at abc11news.

  • Bogged Down Aug 21, 2014

    Whatever happened to Pam Saulsby?

  • melledge Aug 21, 2014

    My wife and I are now empty nesters, so when I see the behavior of children (and adults) today, I was beginning to think I was turning into a crotchety old man! Maybe I am anyway, but I'm glad to see the example you are trying to set. Thanks Lynda!

  • dalejrfan4ever Aug 21, 2014

    How very true, when I would take my daughter to overnight visits at a friend's home, the last thing I would tell her before I left was remember: respect and manners, later I would shorten to, R&M, she is now 25 and still says"I remember that mama"......she has grown up to be someone I am very proud of.....