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Lynda Loveland: Sick and feeling guilty

Published: 2013-01-23 20:52:12
Updated: 2013-01-23 20:52:12

I've been very fortunate this winter to avoid all the nastiness floating around in the air, or on my kids or out and about.

But it finally caught up to me. Proof lies in the pile of tissues next to me. I also feel like I swallowed a flaming porcupine ... backwards.

I came home from work early, had lunch and took a nap. When I woke up, my first thought was, "Crap! I didn't get anything done." The guilt sets in. I shift into turbo mode to try and catch up.

Why do we do that? I mean, good grief, we're certainly allowed down time when we're sick.

Why can't I get that through my thick head?

Lynda is the mom of three and co-host of Mix 101.5 WRAL-FM's Bill & Lynda in the Morning. Find her here on Thursdays. Click here to like her on Facebook.

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I don't get it...

perhaps because you have taken on the role of "manageress"? Get off your feet Lynda!

Lynda, You're NOT superwoman. Sound like Randall is great with the kids so LET IT GO. My husband does all the house work and he was sick with the flu for a week. I didn't even feel guilty that I wasn't doing it for him. (I must qualify that by saying I'm having trouble walking these days and wasn't really ABLE to do anything). We just rested! You can do the same. Randall will see that the kids eat and it's clean enough to be HEALTHY!

Its so hard, because life still goes on- meals are needed, kids activities continue, work doesn't stop, etc. For me, it was a lot easier to rest when I was sick when it was just my husband and I. You just have delegate more so you can rest. Its not easy... I know.

Because you are FEMALE and a MOTHER!

Hey! It gives you something to write about.

Sometimes I think we make ourselves take longer to get over the 'itis' because we don't take the time to just recuperate when we're sick - there's always something that needs to be done, cleaned, soothed, etc.

I don't know. Why?

I used to do this, too. My best friend still rags on me for the time I had H1N1 and had my kids bring me laundry from the dryer to fold. =)

I'm still bad about down time - partly because of my AD/HD and partly because I'm just hardwired to be active. But I'm getting better!

I'm going through something similar. I hurt my ankle at Thanksgiving and I still can't walk or stand for more than a few minutes at a time. I feel soooo guilty cuz things aren't getting done like I usually do them. The hubby is great and the kids don't care if the house isn't perfect. I have just set up my own set of expectations in my head. I guess I feel like I am letting myself down. You aren't alone!

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