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Lynda Loveland: Should I stay or should I go?

Posted April 23, 2014

Lynda Loveland

Those days of being a Supermom are supposed to be over, right?

Then why do I still feel compelled to do everything and be everywhere?

Exhibit No. 1: My daughter has a soccer tournament coming up in Myrtle Beach. We were planning to leave Friday night, but I have to work that evening. I thought well, I'll just drive down Saturday morning. I really do want to see her play.

My husband suggested I just stay home and take a free weekend. Did you hear that? A FREE WEEKEND! (I love that man!) It makes total sense. I wouldn't have to drive a total of seven hours to spend just 24 hours there. I would save gas, mileage on my car and the cost of pet boarding.

But, I still want to go. Look out, crazy train coming my way!

I start thinking that all of the kids will be out of the house in 10 years, only 10 years! I need to get it all in because they'll be gone quicker than that last brownie!

I know one missed weekend won't kill me. There will be more. I need to imagine a quiet house, MY shows on TV and MY wake-up time. 

Feeling better already.

Lynda is the mom of three and co-host of Mix 101.5 WRAL-FM's The Mix Morning Show. Find her here on Thursdays and check out her Facebook page.


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  • Ginger Lynn Apr 30, 2014
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    GO! I have three, and my youngest daughter graduated last spring. For the first time in 23 years, the crazy days of soccer, softball, band,track, PTA are gone. And the quietness makes me sad. Enjoy the chaos. It is fleeting.

  • Mary is a liar Apr 29, 2014

    You have to make a decision. Do you want to stay home and be a stay at home mom or do you want to work. A lot of us don't have that choice. We have to work to support our families. I guess if you're a woman you have that choice.

  • ALLIN Apr 28, 2014

    Good For You! Try it more than once. Work is fullfilling too so I wouldn't give up your day job just yet. Wait til the kids get older.

  • lec02572 Apr 28, 2014

    That's tough, but I've been there done that. I went and didn't regret it a bit. This is an day in your childs life that you can't repeat. There may be other games, but not this game. If I could go back and relive my children growing up I would love to do it again without question. Loved every them dearly today and yesterday.

  • douglively919 Apr 25, 2014

    By all means take the weekend off and don't feel guilty. Your kids will understand as long as you explain it to them in a frank but loving manner. Besides they're not leaving in 10 years. These days, the kids comeback ... generally with grandchildren in tow! So don't worry they'll be around for a while! ;)

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  • wufpaker Apr 25, 2014

    If you are regularly going to events and engaged in your child's life I don't see a problem with missing some of them. For those parents who have more than one child actively involved in activities it many times becomes a day of divide and conquer. Each parent takes a kid (or more) to completely different events. Its very fair, also, to sometimes have a Mommy or Daddy 'event' of couch time. We all need that.

    Now all that being said, I'm an 'only' parent (not 'single' - there is a difference). My wife died when my younger son was in middle school. You never know what life will give you; enjoy life to the fullest - for yourself and for others. My boys got a hard lesson in that several years ago when they lost their mom. They hold tightly to the memories of the events they remember enjoying with her.

  • Marco Hilhorst Apr 25, 2014
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    So to me this is a win win situation. You either get to enjoy spending time with your child, or you get some well deserved rest enjoying some "me time". There is no wrong answer!

  • hihuwatlu Apr 24, 2014

    Turn the trip into a vacation. Turn the radio up in the car and jam out on the way there. Enjoy time with the family. In ten years you won't remember a day of alone time but you and your kids will remember the fun times you had together. Then take a girls night out sometime or have the hubby take the kids off your hands another weekend.

  • snowl Apr 24, 2014

    Oh yes, this younger generation of parents feels that they have to be at every event.... AND there are too many of them now, correct? I say, Stay home. You deserve to have a day to yourself. The kids won't remember anyway, and should respect the fact that YOU need some time off the merry-go-round!