Lynda Loveland: Our own worst enemy!

Do you think fathers are as hard on themselves as mothers?

Heck no! NO one is as critical on us as we are. I'm talking about stress and how we love to use it against ourselves.

I just read a survey of 7,000 moms detailing what stressed them. A full 75 percent of them said THEY are the cause of their own stress. Why? Because they're trying to be perfect and there's no balance in their life.

Kinda thought that number would be more like 90 percent. We worry about not spending enough time with the kids, the house being clean enough, doing well at work and being a good wife.

Shoot, I even stress about stressing too much!

When I'm home, I have the hardest time just sitting down and chillin'. Our sofa probably has at least 100,000 butt hours on it, but I've only contributed a dozen or so. I always feel I have to get something done.

My husband is always telling me to take some "me" time. I finally did the other day. I watched two episodes of The Following, back to back. I enjoyed it, but I felt SO guilty! I kept thinking of all the things I could have done in two hours.

It's sick, I know.

With Mother's Day coming up, I've been thinking about what my kids will remember about me. They're sure as heck not going to remember if I kept the house spotless. I have three kids and three dogs. It's NEVER going to happen. But they will remember if I'm a stressed out, frazzled mess!