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Lynda Loveland: Fining bullies

Posted June 5, 2013

Lynda Loveland

Bullying is a parental issue, not a governmental one, in my opinion.

A town in Wisconsin passed an ordinance allowing police to fine a parent $114 if their kid bullies someone in the neighborhood. The fine goes up for a second offense. I'm all for ending bullying but is the answer having local government step in?

Raising children is a parent's responsibility, period. It is our job to bring up our children to be compassionate, productive and law-abiding citizens. Sometimes we make mistakes along the parenting way but we do our darnedest to correct them!

Bullies have been around since the beginning of time. A law is not going to fix it. If there's a bully in the neighborhood, the neighborhood fixes it. If the government always steps in to solve our problems, how in the world are we ever going to learn to solve them ourselves?

Plus, who's going to pony up the extra cash to enforce the law? Do you really think the parent who cares nothing about their kid's behavior is going to care about paying a fine? How do you define bullying?

I think there's real bullying and then I think there's typical adolescent behavior, which may not be good but nowhere near true bullying. The ordinance is flawed in so many ways.

Fining someone for their child's misbehavior won't flip the "better parent" switch in their head.

Lynda is the mom of three and co-host of Mix 101.5 WRAL-FM's The Mix Morning Show. Find her here on Thursdays. Click here to see her Facebook page.

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  • 123dnih Jun 9, 2013

    can we fine WRAL for posting these incessant articles?

  • rvpatel Jun 6, 2013

    I have to say I disagree. If parents were doing their job, we wouldn't have the bullying cases that we do do have...that result in suicide in some cases. Parents are not doing their job and therefore someone has to step in and do something. Bullying isn't the same as it used to be...social media has made it easier to post and spread horrible things about.

    Kids are cruel - I have witnessed it first hand.

    Perhaps when these parents get fined it will make them more aware of what their children have been up to.

  • Obamacare for life Jun 6, 2013

    Actually, what they should do is start cutting fingers off these bullies for each offense. That will take care of these attention starved d-bags once and for all.

  • monstermash Jun 6, 2013

    I have to credit Wisconsin law makers for taking some stand against repeated bullying. Note that the fine does not kick in until after the parents have been notified in writing of a separate violation. So no skin off the noses of those conscience parents who step in to stop the bullying after initial notification. The aim is to go after the parents who don't do anything after the initial notification or don't care to address. I'll guess most people reading this board aren't either of those two types of parents.

  • Terkel Jun 6, 2013

    "I will say that maybe a better option is requiring a parenting class,..."

    And if the parent doesn't attend, then what?

    More "programs" isn't the answer, IMO. Perhaps if we didn't make it so lucrative for the lazy and unwilling to reproduce for a living and made them pay 100% for their own kids, you'd see fewer kids born to the lazy and unwilling.

  • Scubagirl Jun 6, 2013

    WORTH REPEATING!!!!!

    "Welcome to the United States of the offended. Bullies have been a part of life as long as humans have inhabited the earth. I believe our problem is no longer holding folks accountable for their actions and the actions of their minor children. God forbid someone should actually be punished for doing wrong. We better get over this or society will continue to crumble as more and more parental responsibility is transferred over to government control.
    Glass Half Full"

  • babbleon1 Jun 6, 2013

    And yet, if the parents haven't already stepped up, what solution do you favor?

    It's all very nice to say it's a parenting problem, but that's a description, not a solution.

    I will say that maybe a better option is requiring a parenting class, but at least they're trying to fix something instead of just accepting, ignoring or downplaying it.

  • Chatham Rebel Jun 6, 2013

    I agree with you totally Lynda. The problem today is no one wants to take responsibility for their own actions. There aren't many of us today that were not bullied in some form during our school years. The difference is either the individual took care or it or the bully's parents fixed the problem. As a poster above said today the problem is that a bully learns his/her actions from the parents first. Bad parents, bad child, bully. It's NOT the responsibility of the state, county, school or whoever to take care of it. Keep your own little monster in line.

  • Enough is Enough People Jun 6, 2013

    I agree with you Lynda, but unfortunately we live in a country where the majority of the people do not believe in self responsibility and want the government to do everything for them.

    Personally, with my boys I have always taught them to stand up for themselfs. I never ever want them to start anything, but I promised them that I would never be mad at them for fighting if they were standing up for themselfs or for someone who is too weak to stand up for themself. My rule is if someone hits you, you hit them back twice as hard. I know the majority does not want you to have a spine and stand up for yourself, but I am proud that my boys are bucking that trend.

  • Glass Half Full Jun 6, 2013

    Welcome to the United States of the offended. Bullies have been a part of life as long as humans have inhabited the earth. I believe our problem is no longer holding folks accountable for their actions and the actions of their minor children. God forbid someone should actually be punished for doing wrong. We better get over this or society will continue to crumble as more and more parental responsibility is transferred over to government control.

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