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Lynda Loveland: The second wife!

Posted October 3, 2012

Lynda Loveland

Work comes early for me at Mix 101.5, so my husband, bless his heart, has to fly solo with the kids. At least that’s what I thought, until the big R informed me that my role has been filled in the mornings!

For the last couple of months, I’ve noticed that things in my makeup and hair drawer aren’t quite as they should be. It was subtle at first. A lipstick not twisted back in all the way. A hair tie in the wrong place. I didn’t think too much of it.

But then the disturbance to my personal space became more pronounced! A hair brush left on the counter or missing all together! What in the world? It was time for some answers!

I approached my husband one night. I said, “Honey, someone’s been messing with my stuff in the bathroom. What gives?” He said, “You’ve been replaced. Someone stepped in to fill your shoes!”

“Excuse me???”

Randall said, “I feel like I have a second wife in the morning. Right after breakfast, when I’m getting ready, Carys parks herself in front of your mirror and plays with her hair for 30 minutes! She brushes it to this side and then that side. Puts it up, takes it down. Pulls it back into a ponytail, takes it down. She looks through your makeup. She brushes her hair some more. And she does it, talking to me the whole time!”

Poor guy! As if one wife isn’t enough to deal with! But a pint-sized one as well???

I have to say, I giggled at the thought, initially. But then I started thinking, what in the world is this girl going to be like when she’s a teenager???

Your thoughts on what I can expect???

Lynda is the mom of three and co-host of Mix 101.5 WRAL-FM's Bill & Lynda in the Morning. Find her here on Thursdays. Click here to find her on Facebook.



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  • tjdebord Oct 5, 2012

    What can YOU expect? I think Randall can expect to be in the estrogen ocean. :-) Bless his heart.

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  • warmfuzzz Oct 4, 2012

    That's to funny. I suggest you stock up on hair things and makeup.

  • Glass Half Full Oct 4, 2012

    My ex left when our daughter was 7. He was too busy to spend time with our daughter. He was told "if you don't make time for her now, she won't have time for you later." She's 15 now and doesn't have time for daddy. Breaks my heart for both of them. He's missed watching a wonderful kid grow up. She's missed a father's love. Don't complain Linda, love it, it's priceless and the effects will last a lifetime.

  • Grandpeople Oct 4, 2012

    How wonderful. It is too bad that other parents don't take time to be with their children. Time flies and you cannot get it back.

  • lec02572 Oct 4, 2012

    She is your "Minnie Me." As a father I am proud to say that my daughter who recently got married was the same way. When she was born her and I did so many things together. Before she could walk I would take her to high school football games (just her and I) giving her mother a break. I had a diaper in one pocket and a bottle in the other, that was so much fun. We always kept an open door for conversation, which during her teenage years was wonderful. She has grown up into a beautiful woman inside and out. I only hope when the day that she has a child her husband will do the same for his daughter or son. If I could go back to the day she was born I would love to do everything again just the way we did. Enjoy the days as your children do grow up.

  • Killian Oct 4, 2012

    LOL! That's hilarious. And really, the other two comments nailed it - whatever keeps her communicating, especially with her father, is fantastic.

    Now, when she is a teen, she may need some of her own stuff and her own space, but no reason she can't use your mirror! Could you maybe clear out a drawer for her and have her stuff in there? Mascara, for example (I know she doesn't wear it now!), should never be shared because of infection risk.

    Love it...good for Carys, and good for Randall too!

  • katizs Oct 4, 2012

    What a sweet thing - that is very special for girls to have that connection with their dad :) enjoy it as much as he can and treasure it!

  • mommymatters Oct 3, 2012

    Whatever keeps her talking! As long as she keeps talking as you move into her teenage years is a good thing. That way you know what's going on in her world. Especially talking with her Daddy! These times with her Dad while she is young and beyond are going to help her have healthy relationships with young men in the future. Hang in there Randall!