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Raleigh foundation helps couples dealing with infertility

Posted April 28, 2010

— The costs for in vitro fertilization can be daunting, but a local foundation is offering couples information and financial assistance for the process.

“I feel for women out there because I was the woman sitting in the clinic saying, ‘This is not me. This can't be happening. I don't want to be that woman who feels broke and who feels that there's something wrong with me,’” said Lori Moscato, co-founder of Pay It Forward Fertility.

Moscato and her husband turned to in vitro fertilization and now have two healthy children.

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They started the Raleigh-based foundation to help other infertile couples deal with the high costs of IVF procedures and medications.

“You are looking at roughly between $8,000 and $10,000 in procedures and, believe it or not, it's the medicine that also makes up almost the same amount of money, so you're looking at about $10,000 to $15,000,” she said.

Most employer insurance does not cover IVF procedures or other costs, so Moscato says many couples max out credit cards or take out large medical loans.

“So it's heart wrenching to see these people reach so deep into their accounts to try and afford these costly procedures,” she said.

The organization is currently helping four couples who have been dealing with infertility. To qualify for the program, the coupled needed to meet certain criteria based on need and lack of insurance coverage.

Moscato’s organization has been able to cover 80 percent of the costs for each couple. Pay It Forward Fertility also works with fertility pharmacies who donate some of the necessary medicines.

The foundation is hosting a forum on Saturday, May 8, to provide information about infertility clinics and options. The forum is being held at the Crabtree Marriott Hotel in Raleigh.


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  • Lab mom Apr 30, 2010

    Some of these comments are the worst I have ever read since these blogs were started. My daughter is an IVF baby. We sold stocks to pay for it. Don't any of you dare judge an IVF parent. Unless you have tried for years and years or cannot have a baby without help shut up. Adoption??? Have you ever tried that?? Wouldnt you rather have your own child instead? Well, we did. So, there. Just shut up. You have no clue. This is a wonderful program and I will be more that happy do help.

  • boatrokr Apr 30, 2010

    Consider infertility's pain: no first days of school, never being mother of the bride, no sparkling eyes under Christmas trees, no little arms around your neck. You watch friends with their family & return to an empty house. Perhaps you WERE pregnant, only to miscarry your baby.

    You hear cases of horrendous abuse on the news, knowing you'd never hurt your child, yet can't conceive while unfit parents get pregnant easily. (Shania Davis' mother comes to mind here)

    To have friends constantly shove adoption at you, tell you it's God's will (the cruelest I've gotten), or "it's just not meant ot be" only adds to the deep grief.

    Consider whether you want to hurt people before you open your mouth.

  • NC Reader Apr 30, 2010

    "If someone can't breed without surgical intervention and months (years?) of drug/medical therapy, it's a perfectly reasonable question to ask "why not adoption instead"?"

    Were you able to "breed" without intervention?

  • NC Reader Apr 30, 2010

    "Perhaps not being able to get pregnant naturally is an indication that a couple is not meant to have biological children."

    Is that what it meant for you? I assume you're speaking from experience?

  • boatrokr Apr 30, 2010

    P.S. hereandnow, not that it's your business: but a family feud w/false allegations of abuse tore my family apart. When courts don't believe you, say you're in denial, and they know what's best and rip you from parents you love... (think I'm lying? Remember the Mormon kids!) I was ripped from good parents and given to people who WERE unfit. The last thing I want to do is deal with nosy social workers and judges again, and I just flat don't want someone else's children. That doesn't make me a bad person.

  • boatrokr Apr 30, 2010

    It is NOT acceptable to ask "why not adoption" for the reasons I stated. First of all: it's considered RUDE and insensitive by most couples dealing with infertility. As I stated, infertile couples have already heard of adoption. They already know what it is, and if it's an option for them, they're already considering it.

    Go to any infertility support group: "Why don't you adopt?" is at the top of everyone's list of things they wish friends wouldn't say. When other friends say they're planning a family, do you ask THEM if they're going to adopt? I doubt it.

    Infertility treatments are painful, invasive and stressful enough without well-meaning people chiding us for not adopting.

    If adoption is so wonderful, unselfish, etc, then why don't THEY adopt? Think about it, and remember that infertile couples are your friends/family. Do you want to hurt or offend people you care about??? PLEASE: google infertility support for what not to say before you open your mouth and injure someone.

  • boatrokr Apr 30, 2010

    Infertile couples have already heard of adoption & know what it is. If it's an option, they're considering it already. What should you say? "I'm sorry you're going thru this. I'm your friend, and here for you if you need to talk."

  • boatrokr Apr 30, 2010

    PLEASE stop shoving adoption in infertile couples' faces. It's always first out of other people's mouths & one of the more insensitive remarks. ("This is nature's way of showing you you aren't meant to be a parent" is another. What you tell them is that God decided they were unfit so he chose to sterilize them. FALSE. If that were true, no abuser would breed)

    Adoption doesn't exist to provide infertile couples with children. It's very personal & there are good reasons why it isn't always chosen. I for one was adopted, had a bad experience, and never want to see another nosy social worker or family court judge again in this life.

    Adoption can cost as much or more as treatments. There AREN'T "millions" of kids available & the process is grueling & intrusive. The requirements are stringent & exclude many otherwise great parents. My husband had an organ transplant, so we're excluded medically even if interested.

    Go to for a suggested list of what not to say. it's cruel.

  • beach1 Apr 29, 2010

    Building a family can mean something different for every person. What means those people go through to have a family is their decision, and one they have to live with, not you. There are many cases where there are no embryos left to make decisions about.

    Looks like the forum the foundation is holding is going to discuss adoption as well as infertility.

  • right2life Apr 29, 2010

    Perhaps not being able to get pregnant naturally is an indication that a couple is not meant to have biological children. I think a lot of people believe they are entitled to fertility, no matter the cost ($ and the destruction of unwanted embryos). Adoption can be a blessing to both parents and children. You can also have a meaningful life without having a baby. If you feel desperate to have a child, it may be time to examine your motives with a qualified counselor.