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Lynda Loveland: The bet

Posted July 27, 2011

Lynda Loveland

My eight-year-old daughter Campbell is a talk-aholic. I’ve blogged about her before. Some days I go hours without hearing the voices of my other two kids because Campbell is in the midst of a run-on sentence/conversation that goes on and on and on.

My Chatty Cathy also has been asking for an iPod Touch. Have you seen how expensive those things are? Holy cow! I told her she’d have to sell some of her things that she doesn’t play with anymore and get the money herself.

Well, I got an idea the other day after listening to Cam talk non-stop from the time she got off the bus until bath time. I said, if you can stay quiet from the time you get home until you wake up the next morning, your Dad and I will buy you an iPod Touch. Randall whipped his head around and shot me a look. I said honey, please. We are soooo safe on this one.

So the next day, she gets off the bus and its game on.

She comes in the house and plops down in front of the tube. I called Caiden to come into the kitchen and start his homework. I call to Cam. I say, “Sweetie, do you want to do your homework now or chill for a minute?” And exactly 7 minutes, 39 seconds after the bet started, she responds with, “No I’ll…” Then silence.


Lynda is the mom of three and co-host of Mix 101.5 WRAL-FM's Bill & Lynda in the Morning. Find her here on Thursdays.


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  • blueangelchild2001 Aug 3, 2011

    Wow, some of you people take things WAY to seriously. My parents did things similar all the time when I was a child and it surely was not reflected as poor parenting and it really did not bother me, or my sister, or my cousins (whose parents did the similar as well). I knew that to get what I wanted, sometimes I had to do a few things that I didn't necessarily want to do. It taught me that with happiness comes some healthy sacrifice.

  • orangeyougladtoseeme Jul 31, 2011

    Sounds like you have some "Mommy" issues. Your statement that Lynda never intended to hold up her end of the bargain just proves that it is you, not Campbell, who lacks the cognitive ability to handle a good-natured bet between a great mother and great kid.

  • escolborn Jul 29, 2011

    Lynda, I'm with you and Bill. Anyone who listens to your show for any time knows how MUCH you both love your kids. And I'll bet Campbell is as smart as you are. She had a shot, and it was worth the try. IT DID NOT PUT HER IN ANY DANGER. BUT, rather, it was a GOOD learning experience. I don't think you "set her up for failure" as much as gave her an opportunity to see that you have to work hard to get some things you want. It was also an opportunity to think about how much she talks and how if may impact the family dynamics. More children need to learn that they are not the center of the universe. If they did, perhaps we wouldn’t have so many adults who think THEY are.

  • maggieknowlya Jul 29, 2011

    I had a little game I played with my daughter from about the age of four. She would jabber on and on as described by Lynda until I would be completely frazzled from trying to be polite and listen. So I would say, Honey, you know....Mommy's ears are really tired. Can we just not talk for a while so they can rest? Knowing that she was already imbued with an empathetic nature and a such a sweet generousity of spirit that she would always agree. And it worked. So for you was a good lesson to Campbell in self awareness, and fairness. She wasn't able to keep her committment so she wasn't able to win the desired prize. Good going.

  • weimy21 Jul 29, 2011

    Those of you who are critical about this story usually end up raising your kids to be the ones who will never be able to face disappointment and define the ME generation! Get a grip--great story Lynda!

  • peanutmas Jul 29, 2011

    I agree it was cute. Something to think about.....last week you were concerned about what your relationship would be like with your kids when they are teenagers.....which are the years of trying to get them to careful what you wish for...

  • jkwit Jul 28, 2011

    I agree with lighten up! I thought the story was cute! If we were so concerned about protecting our child's feeling, would we be telling them stories about Santa Clause and having them sit on his lap? Haven't we all had a little laugh or two at our child's expense? Children learn from these kinds of situations.

  • j-lo93 Jul 28, 2011

    wow...lighten up people. funny stuff, lynda- thanks for sharing! you always remind me to enjoy my 3 children more by not taking everything so seriously! (i still laugh about the wood chipper 6 year old has a new nickname)

  • Killian Jul 28, 2011

    shsmith6174 -- You're absolutely right. No one needs to run out and buy their child an iPod right now. However, setting a child up for failure is a clear example of poor parenting. A child Campbell's age does not have to cognitive reasoning ability to see beyond her mother's cruel joke (oh that's right, we're supposed to have a sense of humor, right?) to understand that her mother never had any intention of following through on her end of the deal anyhow.

    If Cam's mother had been fair and not tried to create failure so she could laugh at her child's expense, and the child HAD held her silence? Somehow I think there would've been some caveat or loophole to get out of the purchase. This isn't "humor" and it isn't "spoiling" your child if YOU initiate the offer.

  • snowl Jul 28, 2011

    I have always accepted the fact that my daughter is chatty. I knew what was on her mind and how she was feeling about life etc, and she would count on me to listen. It's funny, because now that she is an adult, she will realize she's talking non-stop and say, "oh, sorry Mom, I'll stop talking now".....I just have to smile...:-)