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Amanda Lamb: Luv u 2

Posted July 10, 2011

I've heard it from my friends who have teenagers:"Kids today don't talk, they text."

This is true. But I've recently learned that there is a positive side to this new trend: The possibility of new communication with our kids.

My oldest daughter recently got her first phone. In reality, it is more for my benefit more than it is for hers. But let's keep this a secret. It has already paid dividends in allowing me to more easily coordinate activities, play dates and carpools. She is also very responsible about checking in and keeping me informed of not only what is going on with her, but with her sister, her babysitter and her father. At night, it's lights out for the phone. She hands it over to me until a respectable hour. I read the texts on the phone - a pre-arranged agreement between the two of us prior to the purchase.

I was told by friends to get an unlimited texting plan. Luckily, I heeded this advice. Otherwise, the cost of the phone would have far outweighed the benefits.

The best part is that she talks to me in text messages in a way that she rarely speaks to me in person.

"How was your day," I say on a typical evening.

"Fine," she responds.

"What did you do?" I ask, genuinely interested.

"Nothing," she says.

Now, instead of vague generalizations, I get detailed descriptions of what she is doing - sometimes even a play-by-play of how it is going down. Partly, this is because she only has a handful of friends with phones, so her options for texting people are limited.

I know it will not always be cool to text your mother, but as long as it is, I'm going to enjoy it. I even get the occasional "Luv u 2."

Now that's priceless.

Amanda is the mom of two, a reporter for WRAL-TV and the author of several books including two on motherhood. Find her here on Mondays.

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  • snowl Jul 11, 2011

    Yes, I save some of those priceless "love you" text messages in my phone from my daughter, even if she is a junior in college now! We (Moms) can never get too many of those...:)

  • DWH4sure Jul 11, 2011

    My daughter is 9, and after careful consideration we purchased a pre-paid phone for her to use when visiting grandparents out of state. She felt so grown up, and I liked being able to check in whenever I wanted. It made my heart happy to get a "good night Mom" text as she was going to bed each night. She is not allowed to use the phone on a regular basis, but we will let her have it next week when she visits the other set of grandparents. It just works for us.

  • katizs Jul 11, 2011

    Couldn't agree more with you! I got my 13 yr old a phone due to her travel along with her siblings out of state to see their dad and there is nothing more sweeter than looking at your phone and seeing those few letters - Luv u mom

  • kellypratz Jul 11, 2011

    my daughter is only 9 and I don't think she is old enough for her own phone. Every once in a while my husband will let her text me from his phone and it's so nice to see a text from her saying "Love you Mom!"