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Fayette-Mom: Big kids, bigger problems

Posted June 13, 2011

Jennifer Joyner

Last week was a frantic blur of get-everything-done-before-school-gets-out-for-summer.

Doctor appointments, shopping for birthday presents, enjoying the quiet of the house — I was busy, let me tell you. And honestly, with all the bad news last week about area students, it was nice to be distracted. Like everyone else, I’m sure, it was difficult not to think about those teenagers who lost their lives, way too young, on the cusp of so much potential. And their poor parents — I could barely stand to think about what they were going through.

On my last day of freedom, right before preschool pick-up, I was hurrying through the grocery store when I happened upon a church friend I hadn’t seen in a while. She asked me about my little ones, and I explained I was about to embark on a full summer with them, trying to keep them entertained. I asked about her two sons, remembering that one was in college and the other was about 16. She shook her head slowly, wistfully. “Let me tell you,” she said. “Enjoy yours why they are small. Little kids have little problems. And big kids….” her voice trailed off, and I knew exactly what she was getting at.

Yes, it can be frustrating when your kids need you so much, for seemingly every little thing. Sometimes it’s hard to breathe. You can feel so suffocated by their dependence on you. But gosh, filling up water bottles and fetching Goldfish crackers? I can certainly handle that.

Come to think of it, I’ll take it as long as I can.

Jennifer is a mom of two and WRAL-TV assignment editor in Fayetteville. Her food obsession memoir, “Designated Fat Girl,” came out in September. Read more about Jennifer and her book on her website. Find her here on Go Ask Mom on Tuesdays.


 

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  • missparrothead Jun 14, 2011

    A coworker once told me that once you become a parent, its a 24/7 job forever. He is so true. Even when they are at college, college graduates looking for a job, potential marriage, etc you will always be thinking of them, worrying over them (in my case), etc. Baby stuff is very time consuming- diaper changing, feeding, etc but its just as intense as they grow older, but things and issues just shift! Its very rewarding but there are also lots of deep breaths needed!

  • Lab mom Jun 14, 2011

    Ugh, so true. We were faced just last week with a problem to deal with at nine and a half. I thought these things would come up at twelve or so. Yes, I mess goldfish days so much.