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New Mom: Because boys need dolls too

Posted July 7, 2011

My mom is always telling me cute stories from her preschool. One thing I hear a lot of is how the little boys are obsessed with pushing around the baby strollers. And playing with the shopping cart, kitchen and babies. You know, the typical "girl stuff." Could be because they may not have these items at home. I don't know.

But I do know that if Asher wants to do such things, I'm down with it. I want to raise a well-mannered, sensitive, respectful, well-rounded guy. And I think that means things like dolls and kitchens need to be in his world.

When I was a little girl, I had my Lolly. She slept with me every night. She started getting holes in her from all that love. I think back on my childhood and remember her vividly.

A few months back, I did a search online for Lolly. She's considered a vintage toy now and can sometimes be found at auctions and on ebay for $30 or more. I learned that there was a boy version back then, too, named Cholly! I wanted to get one for Asher, but decided to take a different route. That seemed like a lot of money for something that may already be well worn.

So, I decided that Asher needed a rag doll. All his own. Special to him. But, it needed to be machine washable and baby safe.

Naturally, I turned to Etsy (duh). I found a seller that made custom handmade dolls at an affordable price. I emailed her to ask if she's made a little fella before. She sent back immediately (I love a quick response!) that she has a pattern for a boy doll and we got to work creating one for Asher.

Let me tell you, Heathir is a doll (no pun intended). You pick out the hair color, eye color and fabric for his clothes. Seriously, I sent her some color preferences and she sent back photos of fabric color palettes for me to choose between. I felt very much a part of the process. I even asked her if she ever put ears on her dolls, since the dolls I saw in her shop were without ears. I explained that Asher's big ears are very much a part of who he is. (Yeah, they stand out a tad.) She said she'd definitely give it a shot. She even sent a photoshop file of two different ear styles she was toying with. (But, let it be known she doesn't normally share photos of unfinished dolls.) It was a delightful process.

Very soon, Ames arrived in the mail. He came with his own ribbon-close wash bag, complete with his name and directions for his care printed on it. And he is adorable.

Ames sleeps in the crib with Asher. And so far (despite my best efforts), he hasn't really attached himself to any one 'lovey'. But, Ames is there hanging out with him at night. We have used him to point out eyes, ears, nose, mouth. And, we bring him out of the bed for play from time to time.

I'm pretty certain (read: hopeful) that Ames and Asher will become best buds over time. Until then, I'll just remain in awe of how cute they both are.

Kira is the mom of one-year-old Asher. She also recently started her own company Krobe Interactive, offering website services. Find her here on Go Ask Mom from time to time. Find her all the time on her blog, Grits, Grins and Gripes.

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  • FromClayton Jul 11, 2011

    Jackson has SnotLove. SnotLove is a pink, blue and yellow easter bunny that Jackson burries his whole face in and rubs his sometimes less than clean nose back and forth while yelling "uuuhhhh uhhhhh". It makes him happy, so it makes me happy. SnotLove gets a bath in the washing machine every Friday...

  • howdiditgettothis Jul 10, 2011

    Much to the chagrin of my inlaws, Santa gave our 2 year old son a real "baby doll" the year his 3 1/2 year old sister got her "real baby" doll.

    I believe it served the purpose very well, and was certainly age & personality appropriate for him.

    He enjoyed playing with his "baby" at that time, and like most kids (and people) -- he has gone through a variety of favorite toys, interests, etc. as time has gone on.

    Don't let anyone (including your inlaws) goad you into doing something for your child because of THEIR opinion.

    Rather - let your child's own interests/actions guide your parenting.

    Your child will grow knowing you value his opinions, and have self confidence in his choices.

  • calicocatt Jul 10, 2011

    I have 2 daughters - 3 and 6. My oldest has many 'lovies' and she changes out which are the 'must haves' regularly. My youngest however must have her blankie with her and she is very possessive of it. Nobody messes with blankie!!! If we have a boy, I would not be opposed to playing with kitchens, dolls, etc or even a lovie.

  • lwilhelm1 Jul 9, 2011

    I wouldn't feel too bad if he doesn't get too attached to any one thing. I recall a niece going through withdrawals when her favorite went missing. Luckily my daughter had many favorites and there was always one she could cuddle with.

  • pirategirl12 Jul 9, 2011

    My buddy and me, we like to climb up a tree. My buddy and me, we're the best friends can be! And yes, I typed that from memory (while singing it)! LOL

  • MOM-2-A-and-M Jul 8, 2011

    Anybody remember My Buddy? "My Buddy, My Buddy. Wherever I go, HE goes." http://youtu.be/4j2xEwEHbrE

  • Kira Jul 8, 2011

    pinkletoes, I just watched "William Wants a Doll". I LOVE it! I guess I'm too young because I don't remember ever seeing that before. And now, I'm singing it to myself over here. Thanks for sharing!

  • pinkletoes Jul 8, 2011

    Do you remember (or are you too young?) 'William Wants a Doll'?

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lshobg1Wt2M

    :)

  • christaltripp Jul 8, 2011

    I love it! I had a Lolly, too! I still have her and my little girl loves her! If I had a boy, I'd definitely get him a doll. Boys do need dolls, too!

  • bjgupton Jul 8, 2011

    boys need to practice being daddies - dolls and kitchens, etc are wonderful!!!!

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