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Fayette-Mom is Sergeant Mom in the morning

Posted March 21, 2011

Jennifer Joyner

Do you ever feel like a drill sergeant in the morning?

Lately, I feel as though our days start out with me barking back-to-back commands.

“Hurry up and finish your breakfast!”

“Get dressed and don’t forget your shoes!”

“Brush your teeth….we’ll be late!!!”

The short time we have together in the morning consists of me hurrying our children out the door, and that doesn’t make me feel so great.

And we won’t even talk about the brushing of my daughter’s hair. I’m sure all of my neighbors can hear just how well that goes every day.

There’s got to be a better way. I try to let my kids sleep as long as possible, but then I feel so rushed to get them ready in time for school. Is the answer to wake up earlier? Should we be going to bed sooner? How can I make our mornings productive and loving all at the same time?

Perhaps my daughter said it best as we drove to school the other day. “Mommy, waking up makes me tired.”

Me too, baby. Me too.

Jennifer is a mom of two and WRAL-TV assignment editor in Fayetteville. Her food obsession memoir, “Designated Fat Girl,” came out in September. Read more about Jennifer and her book on her website. Find her here on Go Ask Mom on Tuesdays.



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  • Dr D Mar 25, 2011

    Today's BabyBlues comic ( ) might bring a smile. Wanda and many of us can relate!

  • mdwrfw Mar 22, 2011

    I agree with dupreemomma2, you have to be organized! My children are grown with their own children now, but back in the day, getting the 3 of them and myself dressed and ready for school ( I taught) was a chore. It got easier as they got older and could take on some of the responsibility , but I had to be organized the night before.I made lunches and got the table ready for breakfast and clothes set out.No staying up late during the week. My daughter teaches now and has to get her children up at 5:30 for her long commute.She often tells me she remembers our organized evenings and mornings and tries to do the same....Hang in there Fayette-Mom, it will get better! Oh yes, my husband left before we even got up...but even so, 40 years ago men weren't as helpful as they are now...I think my sons do better at helping with the morning rat-race.

  • dupreemomma2 Mar 22, 2011

    First off, it is of GREAT IMPORTANCE to have you and your children set out their clothes the night before...including socks, shoes, hair bows, etc. It will take practice (and we're STILL working on it). We have a bookcase like shelf at the top of the stairs. It has six boxes (with lids). Each child has his/her own box. Before bed they are supposed to put their clothes in it for the next day, and in the morning when they wake up they are to put their pajamas in the box when they take them off (I was tired of washing 35 pairs of pajamas a week - unless one has an accident overnight, the pajamas are clean!).

    Also, I try really hard to monitor what comes off at the end of the day. Unless it is completely filthy, they can wear it again. They're kids, we're at home most of the time.

    Hope this helps some!
    Mom of 5 kids 5 and under!


  • msnfnp Mar 22, 2011

    Threaten to send them to school in their pajamas if they won't get dressed and be prepared to follow through with it. I would bet it would never happen again...

  • luvtoshag Mar 22, 2011

    We are going through this too at my house. Daddy gets to work on time, he leaves before my daughter (8) and I, she gets to school on time, she rides the bus from daycare. However, mom never gets to work on time. So I laid down the law, after several threats, and now dad gets her up and ready before he leaves, which should mean my daughter is ready before I am. Today, that didn't work. She was sitting at the table acting like she was ready and then I noticed she didn't have on shoes, her hair was not brushed or put up. I get so frustrated in the morning, I am tired too. I don't know what the answer is but if anyone finds it, please let me know.