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Amanda Lamb: My hero award

Posted February 20, 2011

My youngest daughter came home from school the other day with something called "My Hero Award." It contained a hand drawn picture of her sister and the following prose: "My sister is my hero because she's pretty, smart and loving to me sometimes. I love her."

At first, her older sister was not impressed by the "loving to me sometimes" phrase, but I explained to her that her sister was simply being brutally honest. I got her to agree that the statement was in fact accurate.

As the oldest child in my family, I never had a big sister to look up to. Frankly, it brought tears to my eyes when I saw the award. Sure, they fight, but when I see them on the couch, draped across one another as they watch "American Idol" together, I am reminded that their friendship will be lifelong, and hopefully offer both of them friendship, comfort and support.. "My Hero Award"

I read somewhere once that the sibling relationship is often more influential in a child's life than the parent-child relationship because siblings spend so much time together. While we're working, cleaning and juggling our chaotic lives, they are talking, playing, and yes, sometimes fighting. But I hope someday they will each recognize just how lucky they each are to have a hero for a sister.

Amanda is the mom of two, a reporter for WRAL-TV and the author of several books including two on motherhood. Find her here on Mondays.


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  • mdwrfw Feb 21, 2011

    Sounds to me like you are doing a great job. My sister and I fought all the time growing up, we were so different and never had much in common.We did have wonderful parents that made us value family relationships and as we grew older we worked hard to cultivate a relationship and now in our 60's we are best friends, still different, but instead of being a problem we enjoy and appreciate each other. Raise your daughters with love and show them how important love is....looks like that's exactly what you are doing. I enjoy your blog Amanda, it brings back fun memories.

  • snowl Feb 21, 2011

    My sister is only 13 months younger than me. We are complete opposites. We get along because we respect and love each other, but I don't feel a close bond, and we don't spend much time together.