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Fayette-Mom: Grandma's here!

Posted February 14, 2011

Jennifer Joyner

“Grandma’s here!”

Like trumpets announcing the cavalry, these two words may just be the best music to a new parent’s ear.

I’ll never forget my mom driving the two hours to my house at a moment’s notice so that I could take a nap. Bleary-eyed and unshowered, I handed over my newborn and slept the best hour and a half of my life.

As my children have gotten older, the need for a visit from Grandma may not be as urgent, but the joy is just as great. Now, it’s my kids who greet my mom at the door, throwing their arms around her and threatening to never let go.

I’m always telling Mom how grateful I am for her help, but she’s quick to correct me every time. She says grandchildren are the best gift because she gets to have all the fun with them without all of the worry. She plays with them for hours on end, not caring about the cooking, the laundry or the messes made. They get her undivided attention, something she says Moms simply can’t do, given all our responsibilities.

I hear that.

The only bad part about visits from Grandma? The tears my kids cry when she leaves. It’s always an adjustment after Mom is gone and the world (seemingly) stops revolving around their every desire. I guess you could say Grandma spoils them. But really, is that so bad? I’m thrilled that they have such a positive relationship with her, and if that means a little extra poutiness, I can be understanding.

After all, when her car leaves the driveway, there’s nobody pouting more than me.

Jennifer is a mom of two and WRAL-TV assignment editor in Fayetteville. Her food obsession memoir, “Designated Fat Girl,” came out in September. Read more about Jennifer and her book on her website. Find her here on Go Ask Mom on Tuesdays.


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  • mdwrfw Feb 15, 2011

    Mt mother was a great grandma and my children loved her dearly. Now, I am a grandmother and it is the best time of my life, truly something for all young, busy, and harried mothers to look forward to.

  • MomOfTwins Feb 15, 2011

    You are so blessed and lucky to have your mom so close by! It's fine that she spoils them and you- where would we be without spoiling?? :-)

  • Twittyfan Feb 15, 2011

    Let the kids enjoy her and you do the same when grandma is there... The laundry and chores can wait because you will never get the time back once she is gone.. I love my parents and they are wonderful grandparents to my daughter.. She is so comfortable with them and that means alot. However for my deceased husband's parents don't make the time or effort to see my child but once a year if then and they live so close to us.. I made all the effort throughout the years and in 2010 I said they would have to take it upon themselves to make some effort.. What hurts so bad is they spend so much time with the other grandchildren and so involved but they never even call I have to do that too.. So look on the brighter side enjoy your mother and Thank God everyday they have such a wonderful grandmother that loves them and takes the time to visit... I think all of you are a blessed family...God Bless you and your family...

  • uncfan89 Feb 15, 2011

    Enjoy every minute of her visits, Grandmas are suppose to spoil them. My mom died 2 years ago unexpectedly, my daughter only had 10 years with her. I grieve everyday for all the things that she is missing by my mom not being here. They had a very specail relationship and I guess I should be thankful for the time they did have.