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Busy Mom's Life: Taking care of myself

Posted February 7, 2011

It's the typical mom thing. Lately there's been no time to take care of myself. I've been working, tending to sick children and in general not having very much fun. My grays are getting out of control and there's simply no time for color. That -- I can live with. But when I realized I forgot to make important medical appointments ... well, that's another thing.

I forgot my annual check-up, my mammogram and the list goes on and on. Why? Too busy. When it does come to mind, there's no convenient day or time to schedule an appointment. I feel guilty for any time I spend away from work or from the kids. This type of guilt is more than alarming; it’s downright dangerous.

You would think I could remember to make my own medical appointments having grown up in a house with a mom who fought cancer not once, but twice! It's like a permanent string around my finger. But not even the fear of my mother’s wrath could get me to pick up the phone.

The busy mom's life doesn't have time for doctor's appointments, working out or anything else healthy without a bit of sacrifice. My trips to the gym take place at 5:30 a.m. when the kids are still sleeping. Eating on the move is the norm. The days are filled with children's appointments, school-related obligations, work responsibilities and the general "to do list" that occupies everyday life.

While personal health issues become a major inconvenience, if I don't start making changes -- there are sure to be consequences. So for the sake of my girls, I'm picking up that phone and making those appointments. They deserve a mom who not only takes care of them, but takes care of herself as well.

Guilt shouldn’t rule my health. I hope it doesn’t rule yours.

Aysu is the mom of three girls and assistant news director for WRAL-TV.

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  • Twittyfan Feb 8, 2011

    I do the same thing.. Women are just too busy and we need to think about our health too...I am a single mom (due to my husband died suddenly not by choice!!) you would think this would make me set my appointments on time everytime but I don't.. I said this year I was going to go to all the doctors appointments and not stress about the little stuff.. Good luck to all the moms and lets make our appointments...

  • MyThreeDaughters Feb 8, 2011

    I am a full time working mom and my husband is the stay at home dad. I wish I could say it's a great situation, but let's face it there are few men who know what clean and organized means. My three daughters and my husband come first. If they need anything they have it. Yet I begrudge myself the simplest appointment. Three years ago I had a lump scare and it turned out to be nothing. Unfortunately, this was not a wake up call that I need to take care of myself. It reinforced that obviously if it is really important there will be other symptoms and I just need to do what I need to do. My motto has become, if it isn't important it can wait. There isn't enough money, I can wait, my girls come first. Another negative reinforcement I have is my husband. If I am home sick my husband is the first one to stop because I am home. Not the best support from the person I rely on to take care of the house. I need a "wife" or an assistant who can fill in everywhere else.

  • Lab mom Feb 8, 2011

    I did the same thing last year. I FORGOT my mammogram!!! I was a year behind. My mother, GM and GGM had breast cancer. Talk about wake up call. I was to busy. I am trying harder this year.

  • MonkeyFace Feb 8, 2011

    I have the problem of actually making the call -------should have been.. I don't have the problem of .... lol

  • MonkeyFace Feb 8, 2011

    I have the problem of actually making the call and getting the apt, but I have a problem with being able to actually go to the things! Between my work schedule and having a certain time my kid gets picked up, I have no time for taking care of myself! I had come down with the flu, and had a horrible chest cold on top of having asthma.. I was still unable to get away from work long enough to go to the doctor.. It made for a horrible 2 weeks. And the sad thing to me is that it went un-noticed by my employees that I needed to go.

  • newssaavy72 Feb 8, 2011

    Why is it that we mothers always manage to get ourselves on the back burner? I could use a few days off myself to take care of me. I have 3 girls, but always manage to get our dentists, well child check ups and annual physicals scheduled. My husband would be lost if he had to do it! Valentines's Day and my birthday is coming up... I need one of these days to relax and unwind for real!!

  • askme Feb 8, 2011

    Awwah, you need to pick up the phone. Elizabeth Edwards said the same thing, she was too busy taking care of others to schedule her own appointments!