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Baby Steps: There's hope

Posted February 4, 2011
Updated February 7, 2011

We rolled out of bed yesterday morning with barely a rinse in the shower and a cup of coffee in hand before hitting the road to meet with a fertility doctor first thing.

I’ve talked before about how months of analysis appointments for my husband were getting old. So we wanted to meet with a specialist who could tell us once and for all – do we have a shot at making a baby? The short answer is …Yes!

I was happy to see the doctor we met with was the same one who walked me through an awful HSG test last spring. He was very sympathetic at the time. I ended up leaving with terrible nausea and had to stay home from work the next day. He recognized me right away and was very welcoming.

We spent about 40 minutes in his office going over test results. He was also disappointed that my husband didn’t seem to be making any improvements since surgery in July. He told us – with my tube blocked in addition to my husband’s problem – it would be very unlikely that we could conceive naturally. But he followed that by saying we are candidates for IVF, which I assumed would also be out of the question.

Dr. P (I’ll leave his name at that) said in vitro was really our only treatment option but explained that it was a viable one. He even went as far as to say we would likely be very successful because of my age. Apparently, they need very few sperm to actually fertilize one of my eggs so my husband should be fine and my condition would not affect the process either.

At the end of the meeting I left with a glimmer of hope. I am not sure this is the road we’ll take but it’s sure nice to know it’s there. I’ve been hesitant about moving forward with any fertility treatments because my body didn’t always react well to some birth control options when I was younger.

Anyone who’s been through it before have any suggestions? Anything we need to consider in our decision?

Christine is a news producer at WRAL-TV, which includes research for 5 On Your Side and producing the 10 p.m. weekend newscasts on Fox50. She lives with her husband and three dogs. Christine is chronicling her experience as she and her husband struggle with infertility. Find her here on Fridays.


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  • MonkeyFace Feb 7, 2011

    don't give up hope!

  • lil157 Feb 6, 2011

    I wish you all the happiness for what ever option you all decide! Good luck with my families hope and prayers attached as we pray all the best for you and your husband! Please let us know if and WHEN baby in making as I know alot of people in this situation will be following your stride for a family! Good luck you guys!

  • lisa15 Feb 5, 2011

    JAT - Not so. Adoption is a huge decision. Pursuing IVF is too. As an adoptive parent who went through many assisted attempts, it is not easy to move this direction or that. Pursuing new options does not mean that the adoption door has shut or that her "heart" wasn't in it. There is a possibility to have success and she shouldn't take it because she'll feel guilty about not pursuing adoption right away?? My husband and I had to prayerfully consider the course of adoption for many months before knowing it was the right thing for us. It isn't like heading down to the SPCA to pick up a stray. Many questions to be considered - international/domestic? infant/older? same/different/mixed race ok? Whatever your experience, you must feel that you are making the right decision for YOU - not to please an unknown moniker on a chat board. Don't belittle another because they aren't following in your footsteps. I hate to fuel you by even responding but I am so tired of your judgmental nature.

  • OIBKat Feb 5, 2011

    Don't give up hope! I also had/have a blocked tube and had a hysteroscopy to unblock it last April. We still have not had luck getting pregnant, but we're certainly giving it everything we've got and not losing have to do the same! I did get pregnant thru IUI, but it was ectopic (which has an increased risk after any tubal surgery)...I know others who have had ectopic pregnancies and then had several perfectly normal ones, so just know that it can be done. Rom your description, I'd bet that we're seeing the same "Dr. P." Keep up hope and good luck...I'll be going through all the same stuff right along with you!

  • anclontz Feb 4, 2011

    All I can say is...if it was me, I would go for it. Obviously, you would need to consider your finances because I know those kind of treatments can get costly. I would definetly try IVF and leave adoption as a last resort. I wish you luck!

  • snowl Feb 4, 2011

    You should explore the financial costs of all your options also, unless money is no object in your decision process.

  • lwt Feb 4, 2011

    WooWhoooo for options! Having two roads to consider may make the decision harder, but at least you are not hearing "NO" anymore! Weigh the pros and cons but also follow your heart. Whatever you decide will be the correct choice for you and your husband. I too look forward to following you on your journey.

  • grannybam07 Feb 4, 2011

    Follow your instincts. You have choices - adoption, IVF, or both. Whatever you and your husband choose will be right for you. IVF can be frustrating but it sounds like the doctor is saying your chances at being successful are higher than they are for others. Before you begin anything, discuss what you will do... if you have more eggs to fertilize than you need (keep frozen, donate, etc.), what age child you are open to adopting (newborn to ____ months/years old), how many fertilized eggs do you want inserted at a time? The answers to these types of questions need to be the same for you and your husband. Decide who you will share your choices/answers with beside your doctor, if anyone at all.

    Thrilled for you both and look forward to following you on your journey!