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Baby Steps: Empty nest

Posted December 3, 2010

Our modest three bedroom home can fit more people than you might think with some level of comfort. Between my husband and I, plus three medium-sized dogs, we’ve already got a full house. And since the summertime, it’s been just about busting at the seams!

We bought our home in 2007 and we’ve shared it with others about half of the time in the past three years. From helping out a friend, or a friend-of-a-friend, or just some college kids – I like to think our home has made life a little easier for a few people who needed a helping hand. This year, we opened our spare rooms to three girls who needed a place to stay. And this past weekend the last one moved on to her own place.

It feels good to know we have the ability to help young people. In some cases, I’m not much older. The bottom line is, we have extra space and my husband and I are both suckers for saying “yes” when asked for help. It’s a choice I can say with certainty that we never regret.

In most cases, the living arrangements were open-ended. And never once have we had to ask anyone to leave. Each person took the chance to pick up and move on of their own accord. It makes it all worthwhile to see each and every one of a half dozen house guests take control of their lives. I really enjoy just knowing that we could be a part of it!

While we thoroughly enjoy sharing what little we have, it feels good to have our home back …with a guest room and an office. We even have an appropriate place to put the crate for the puppy! Now, we also have the option to one day turn one of those rooms into a nursery.

Christine is an associate producer at WRAL-TV, which includes research for 5 On Your Side and producing the 10 p.m. weekend newscasts on Fox50. She lives with her husband and three dogs. Christine is chronicling her experience as she and her husband struggle with infertility. Find her here on Fridays.



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  • christineincarolina Dec 10, 2010

    @ lwt: Sounds like you are in for a treat! Most of the guests we've had have been on a very informal basis. But, what I have learned, is that it's helpful to set up ground rules ahead of time. That might be a little different for you (since it's family), but just getting an idea of who's taking care of which chores will help immensely! And those chores will multiply with all the extra people!
    Antoher piece to think about is how you will handle combining animals. I don't know a lot about cats...but it might be worthwhile for the animals to meet each other on neutral territory before they are forced under one roof together.
    And finally - I appreciate you reading my blog! Please ignore the nasty comments (I do).

  • grannybam07 Dec 6, 2010

    I thank the Lord for people with open hearts like you and your husband. My final semester of college my parents moved out-of-state and a dear friend opened her home for me when I needed it most. I'll never forget her kindness and treasure lots of memories we made living together. I'm sure you have stories of your own that bring a smile or make you laugh.
    While I'm sure it is nice to have your place back to yourselves, remember that life is a circle - how you treat people comes back to you. This is the principle my husband and I choose to live by and it is encouraging to hear that others do too. Merry Christmas and as always, thanks for sharing your journey!

  • ProudBlackSingleMother Dec 6, 2010

    Whine whine whine.

  • amandagrey Dec 3, 2010

    Good for you! It's rare to find someone so willing to open their home, without expecting anything in return!

    I love reading your blog, btw!

  • lwt Dec 3, 2010

    Christine, You sound like a pro on the “helping people out by opening up you home” category.

    My sister has just accepted a transfer to Ft Bragg. She will not be able to close on her new house until the end of January. Therefore my sister, her 8 month old daughter, dog and cat will all be moving in shortly with my husband, me and our 2 cats and 2 dogs. (talk about a full house!). Do you have any advice for someone about to open up their home in such a way for the first time?

  • lwt Dec 3, 2010

    Obviously you are still reading her posts because here you are again, posting negative drivel. If you remember back to the beginning of her blogging, the reason for this blog is to talk about her process of wanting a child and the difficulties with infertility, in the hope that it will help others going through the same thing.

    And believe it or not she is helping a lot of couples in the area that read this blog. If they have been through it, are going through it or know someone who has gone through the ups and downs of infertility, this blog is wonderful. Opening up a dialog is healing and makes a lot of people realize they are not alone.

    You are entitled to your opinion, which is one of the greatest things about this country. But maybe you should remember the reason for this blog before posting your comments. This blog is about infertility and will continue to be about her life with infertility until her and her husband conceive, decide to adopt, or decide to just continue to lov

  • Wake1 Dec 3, 2010

    Stuff it Mugu! Do us all a favor & go read another website!