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Lynda Loveland: Pierce what?

Posted November 17, 2010

Lynda Loveland

Every night at dinner, we all sit around the dinner table and talk about our day. My daughter, Carys, loves it. She leads the conversation and than asks everyone else about their day.

Yesterday started off the same. Carys said, “I woke up. I came downstairs. I ate chocolate chip pancakes.” Than she started talking about day care. It sounded pretty typical until she got to the part about wanting to pierce her ears. I stopped chewing. She said one of her friends had her ears pierced and she wanted hers done. As you probably know, Carys is very much a girly girl … and just three years old.

Now, I’m not against parents getting their little kid’s/baby’s ears pierced. That’s their thing. It’s none of my business. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Personally I think it’s just more work. You gotta take care of them (the piercings) and you gotta deal with your kids’ pain.

I don’t remember how old I was when I got my ears pierced but I was at least in middle school, not day care. Carys may want it, but she’s not old enough to make a rational decision about it. She’s three!!! I realize I’m probably being a bit old school. Maybe I’ll give in later, but not now. My husband thinks it’s not a big deal.

Well…it ain’t happening.

Lynda is the mom of three and co-host of Mix 101.5 WRAL-FM's Bill & Lynda in the Morning. Find her here on Thursdays.


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  • thompson8674 Nov 24, 2010

    I think I was around 10 when I got mine pierced. I remember my Grandmother had hers done at the same time. I finally let my daughter get hers done around 8 or 9. But I made her look after them. When we were finally able to take the piercing studs out and put in regular earrings she cried because she said it hurt so bad. For the next year, she would hardly ever let me change them because she was scarred. Many time she said she wished she had never done it. She will be 12 next month and is fine with it all now. Just follow your "mommy instinct". You'll know when your daughter is ready!

  • andreanicole686 Nov 22, 2010

    3 is way to young for a child to get an ear piercing. 3 really? I agree with Lynda. The earliest age should be around the age of 7 or 8.

  • rroadrunner99 Nov 20, 2010

    My Sister took my daughter off with her one day and they came back a few hour's later with her ear's done. She was around 3 year's old at the time and had been having a fit to have it done. Now cutting her hair was a whole 'nother story...It was only cut about once a year and then only about 2-3 inches to get the dead-end's off of it.I didn't let her cut her hair until she was 13. She was born with a head full and kept it too. When she finally did get it cut she donated it to "lock's for love" to make wig's for children going thru cancer treatment, that lose their hair...they get wig's made from it. She has donated 3 or 4 time's so far.

  • vicngwen Nov 19, 2010

    I had mine pierced at 10 so I thought my 8 year old twins could probably handle the care piercing required. Well, the first twin got it done and promptly peed her pants and passed out in the middle of the mall. I had a heck of a time dragging her away so that her sister wouldn't see her and freak out. They both did well taking care of their ears and laugh every time they tell the tale of what happened that day.

  • jeb5467 Nov 19, 2010

    When I was growing up, the age for ear piercing in my family was 12. We were old enough to make a good decision about being capable to handle pierced ears and the responsibility that goes with it. I think younger children need to stick to the "stick on" earrings!

  • belloek Nov 19, 2010

    i got mine pierced when i was born!

  • Killian Nov 19, 2010

    My oldest begged me too, at age 4. I made her go and watch 3 different people get it done, and ask questions as well. "Did it hurt?" They answered her quite honestly, and she nodded in understanding. So after hearing, "Yes it hurt!" and seeing a little drop of blood on one guy, and watching their ears turn red from the inflammation, she still wanted it done.

    I allowed it, but I made her do the cleaning thing too, every day when she brushed her teeth. I supervised, but she had to be responsible for it.

    Now, what's good for my kid isn't necessarily right for anyone else. Just offering a perspective that *some* kids can form coherent opinions. She got a second set of holes later, but let them close and just has the one. Her sister got her ears pierced in much the same way and now has 2 in each lobe, her cartilage, and her navel. (Which is her limit at 17!)


  • IzzMad2016 Nov 19, 2010

    My son Jon (who, by the way, was one of the guys who built your new deck a couple of years ago) bugged me and bugged me for a tattoo and a pierced ear when he was a teenager. I told him he couldn't do anything to his body that required my written permission and he'd have to wait until he was 18. He's now 38 and still has no tattoo and no pierced ear. I guess what seemed important to him as a teen wasn't so important as an adult. BTW -- your children are adorable!

  • Whosays Nov 19, 2010

    I was late in life getting mine pierced, like in my late thirties early forties, I had mine done when my daughter turned 12 I think. It was a wonderful experience to do that with her.

  • AMHall82 Nov 18, 2010

    @aycock > you know your kid better than anyone else, so you know when she's responsible enough to take care of it. I think you're doing the right thing.

    @Kittiboo > your husband and I agree on that subject!