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Amanda Lamb: Vamping for Halloween

Posted October 24, 2010

The other day while my daughter was in school I went to the costume store and took pictures of the female vampire costumes with my phone. She looked at them after I picked her up from carpool and settled on the one I thought was the "sexy vampire."

Clearly, that was not what was on her mind. She just thought it was the cutest dress, but I was kicking myself for even considering bringing the outfit to her attention. Why hadn't I looked more closely at it? It was too skimpy, too short, too everything for a 10-year-old. I actually was surprised that it was advertised in the tween section.

"Mommy, that's the one I want. I love the color and the ruffle at the bottom," she said excitedly passing me the phone.

"Sweetie, how about this one?" I said hopefully clicking on a more demure ensemble with a longer hem and full sleeves instead of spaghetti straps.

"Well, that's okay. But I really like the first one," she replied.

I decided not to push it, but instead to compromise. I told her we would go try them on in the store and see which one looked the best. In my mind I was thinking "appropriate," but I didn't dare say it out loud. I figured the more I tried to influence her, the more likely she would pick the one I didn't like.

We got to the store and went right to the wall of photographs with each outfit pictured and a corresponding number. The number for the one my daughter wanted had white tape over it. I asked the clerk if that meant the outfit was sold out, and he said yes.

"Darn, Honey, they don't have it. I guess we'll have to try the other one you liked," I said trying my best to look and sound disappointed.

She tried it on, and it looked adorable - like the age-appropriate vampire I had originally pictured.

"I really love it Mommy. Thank you! I just need one more thing to make it complete," she said coyly.

"What's that?" I asked innocently.

"Fishnet stockings!" she said with a grin.

Amanda is the mom of two, a reporter for WRAL-TV and the author of several books including one on motherhood called "Smotherhood." Find her here on Mondays.


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  • My3Boys Oct 26, 2010

    God gave me boys for a reason :0).

  • elliesmom Oct 25, 2010

    Ugggghhh. My daughter is 10 also and we have been through the same conversation. We have a rule--no "hootchie mama" costumes allowed. Period. We've talked about the many reasons why it is not ok to make children look "sexy," but really, when they see the costume ads, I think most of that information goes out the window.

  • stopthehaters Oct 25, 2010

    Thanks to TV and movies, its so easy for kids to assimilate into modern adult fashions. With Disney having such positive role models like Lindsay Lohan and Hanna Montanna young girls growing up will fit right in .