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Lynda Loveland: Motherhood - a license to emote

Posted October 20, 2010

Lynda Loveland

I’m not sure how it happened, but somehow, after becoming a mom, I can become a human emoticon at the drop of a hat!

I’m mostly referring to the instantaneously teary eyed, overcome with a wave of happiness, emoticon. You know the one I’m talking about. Is there some kind of hormonal change we go through when we assume the role of motherhood? As if we need anything else to make our lives more difficult.

It’s tough to get it under control sometimes. Here’s the latest example: my kids’ soccer games.

They just started playing this season. The first time my son and daughter scored a goal, I nearly broke down! It was all I could do to keep the tears from streaming down my face. I had this big lump in my throat and my mouth was quivering. I could barely maintain my composure. What is up with that??? I was a mess!

Later in the season, another child, who has been trying very hard, finally scored. And good grief I lost it again! And it’s not just soccer. It seems like it’s anything involving kids succeeding at something. What in the world??? I understand its happiness and all, and that’s a good thing, but dang, reel it in mama! I love, love, love being happy for the kids but can’t I do it a little less visually…and with fewer tissues?

I’m thinking not.

Lynda is the mom of three and co-host of Mix 101.5 WRAL-FM's Bill & Lynda in the Morning. Find her here on Thursdays.


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  • whyalltheproblems Oct 21, 2010

    sorry, meant to say what Bill said.

    I agree w/ what Lynda wrote. I too had tears in my eyes when my daugther scored her first soccer goal ever in the last few minutes of the last game of her season. My heart rejoices for both of my children in their victories as easily as it is crushed when they are hurt emotionally.

  • whyalltheproblems Oct 21, 2010

    I think what Bill today regarding this was perfect :).

  • lokayatra Oct 21, 2010

    Yes lokayatra has 3 children and also choked up at one elem school recognition ceremony. I gave a perspective. Nothing can be stifled or controlled. It has to come from contemplation and experience. We all strive for happiness but it is upto the individual to discover what exactly it is.

  • bjgupton Oct 21, 2010

    Emotions are great!! Embrace it, your children will know how much you care.

  • kknight Oct 21, 2010

    a mom is never too emotional Libertarian Techie. I get emotional whenever either of my sons do something. My oldest is a freshman at NC State and in the marching band and the first home game i cried like a baby the entire time and that was just during the pre-game show. Its pride in seeing your child or someone elses child do something great, whether big or small it's great to them. I am a Boy Scout Leader and I see it all the time with the scouts, when they finally have the ah ha moment, I cry like a baby sometimes. I am not embarrassed by it and never will be, in fact I am proud of it because they accomplished something and maybe I will be the only one who will recognize it. It's very sad to see children do well at something and their own parent completely miss it or acknowledge it. Good for you Lynda. We spell our names alike and we have a lot in common about kids too!!

  • Twittyfan Oct 21, 2010

    Very SWEET Lynda!! I teared up when I read this but you do not hear of this often with other parents...I get those moments too especially the first day of school, mini graduation or even when she writes a poem and reads in front of the class with you standing there..You are normal so don't worry..

  • RealityAddict Oct 21, 2010

    When my 13 year old daughter stood up in front of everyone at church and sang a song, A cappella, no less. It was the sweetest voice, I have ever heard. The tears were rolling!!!

  • bthann Oct 21, 2010

    You think it's rough now, just wait until they leave home for college. I spent my son's last summer at home crying nearly every day at the prospect that he was moving 10 hours away and might never move home again. What a blessing to be able to give and receive such love! It helps me understand God's love for us, His children, even better.

  • Glass Half Full Oct 21, 2010

    Welcome to the world of the waterheads. Some of us do it and some of us don't. I do and it drives my daughter crazy now! She can tell when it's going to happen. Whatever you do, don't look at their baby pix when others are around. That gets me every time!

  • snowl Oct 21, 2010

    JMHO, I was thinking the same thing before I read your post. For me, it's the "Pomp" marching music they play when the graduates walk in wearing their cap and gown, and when they walk on stage to receive their diploma. I think we feel like graduating parents at that moment! So proud.