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New mom: Bloodshot is the new black

Posted September 30, 2010

Didn't you know? Bloodshot is the new black.

And I wear my red eyes with pride. After all, aren't they the mark of a momma?

Gone are those blissful days of Asher sleeping through the night. (This was from about week eight to month 3.5.) They almost feel like they never existed. New restless, hungry nights enter the picture. I told myself at first that Asher was just hungry after losing weight from being sick, and was making up for lost meals. Now, three weeks later, I think this is just a new phase. A sleepless phase. Maybe a teething phase? Maybe it's because he's still getting used to the crib after sleeping in his baby hammock?

Since I'm nursing, it's just me that gets up at night. It's easy to keep him calm, feed him and put him right back down this way. And, as long as he goes back to sleep, the whole process doesn't bother me that much. It sure beats the restless, worried sick nights. Now, overnight feedings have become a nice, quiet time with my sweet boy. I cuddle with him in the dark and remind myself that he won't be this small forever. Now when the weekends roll around, I pass Asher off to Rusty in the morning and go back to bed for a few hours. That's my reward.

So, for now, I yawn while I type this. And avoid the urge to research 'sleep regression', 'sleep training', 'cry it out' and the like. In reality, I've read the information and books that we were willing to implement. I've talked to friends about their babies and how they handled similar situations. I've stressed about it and analyzed it. All babies are different, anyway. It's hard to compare, right? Every family handles it in their own way.

And in the end I have reached this conclusion: Asher's waking up hungry for whatever reason. And as his mom, I'm going to feed him and trust that this, too, shall pass. Groundbreaking notion, isn't it?

Next time the sleeping through the night phase comes around (because I'm certain it will, surely, right?), I'll appreciate it much more.

Sweet dreams, my sweet boy. Momma sure loves you.

Kira is the Raleigh mom of baby Asher. Read more about her adventures on her blog Grits, Grins and Gripes.

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  • turkeydance Oct 1, 2010

    nothing new here.
    after your first child, you are different.
    after your second, everyone else is different.
    after the third, different is looking pretty good.

  • missparrothead Oct 1, 2010

    LRB- all toddlers will wake up during the night, cry out and soothe themselves back to sleep. give your child a chance to do this before bringing her into your bed. if one of mine cried more than a reasonable amt, one of us would check on him/her, fluff the blankets, pat on the back and leave the room. worked like a charm.

  • mittmitt Oct 1, 2010

    I love this!
    These words could have come directly from my mind!
    For me, it was the six month mark when Cameron started getting up each night. I have talked to others, just like you and have come to the same conclusion. The little guy is hungry, I'm his mom, and I'm going to feed him. I, too, get through many nights by enjoying his company, and thinking of how fast he will grow up. In the big scheme of things, they are only this small for a fleeting moment...the blink of an eye.

    Enjoy him :-) I know I am enjoying mine!

  • LRB Oct 1, 2010

    My youngest just turned 1. She doesn't need to eat in the middle of the night anymore, but for the past 1-2 months she's been waking up around 3am crying. So into mommy and daddy's bed she goes and right back to sleep. I don't know what's causing her to not sleep through the night and I try not to worry about it. I'm sure she'll grow out of it soon. Like you said they won't be this small forever, and I can't believe she's 1 already.

  • hihuwatlu Oct 1, 2010

    AT about 3 1/2 months my daughter would still sleep through the night but she started nursing every 2 hours during the day like she was starving. I felt like I couldn't get anything done because I was always feeding her. I called my pediatrician and he asked me a few questions about her development and suggested I start her on a little bit of infant cereal. It worked great and she went back to eating every 3 hours or so. So, I strongly recommend checking with your pediatrician if any changes in eating habits last longer than a week or so. All babies develop at different rates and yours may just be developing faster than average.