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Lynda Loveland: No fireworks for you!

Posted July 7, 2010

Lynda Loveland

Faced a bit of a dilemma last weekend. Maybe it shouldn’t have been, but for me, it kinda was.

It was the 4th of July. We’d been at the pool for several hours. My two older kids, ages 5 and 6, for whatever reason, were having a bad day. They were fighting constantly and just not listening. You know what I’m talking about. One minute they’re laughing and having a great time, the next, Caiden is punching Campbell in the face. What in the world!!

After swimming we went to a friend’s house for dinner. The in-fighting and lawlessness continued. My husband and I had enough. We gave them the ultimate warning, one more slip up and NO fireworks! They looked shocked. Take away fireworks? It only comes once a year! The kids had been looking forward to the show for days! We thought surely that would get their attention.

And it did, for about 20 minutes. Sure enough, they started acting up again. Do they not get how this works? That was the last straw. NO fireworks for you! They were silent for a split second and than the crying ensued. Too bad so sad, they were warned. We put them in the car, crying the whole time, and went home where they went straight to their rooms for the rest of the night.

They protested and protested but we didn’t give in. It was a rough night. But it needed to be done.

Whew, glad that’s over.

Lynda is the mom of three kids and co-host of Mix 101.5 WRAL-FM's Bill & Lynda in the Morning. Find her here every Thursday.


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  • Eduardo1 Jul 13, 2010

    good going MOM!

    They lost something that they enjoyed, and maybe
    even a little bit of self sacrifice for you

  • finicula Jul 11, 2010

    Another prime example of an overly protective parent.
    These kids will certainly be sissies in their older years.
    'Paul The Octopus' was not needed for this prediction.

  • Adelinthe Jul 11, 2010

    pattgloria - "I still think Lynda was a little harsh but that's what I think."

    Please help us understand why you think that way.

    God bless.


  • Adelinthe Jul 11, 2010

    "They protested and protested but we didn’t give in. It was a rough night. But it needed to be done."

    GOOD for you and GREAT for your kids.

    Parenting isn't for sissies.

    God bless.


  • capitalland Jul 10, 2010

    I wish the idiots who live near me would have taken a nap instead of shooting fireworks all weekend, starting on Friday and, well actually its still going on now.

  • kittiboo Jul 9, 2010

    pattgloria, you are awfully hypocritical to chastise some of us for not appreciating your opinion as you make assumptions about the story Lynda told (you don't know what other punishments had been doled out that day because you weren't there) AND suggesting that she felt guilty (how would you know her feelings?). Everyone here is entitled to an opinion, and to share it, even if it means telling you what OUR opinion of YOUR opinion is. It works both ways. Just sayin'.

  • Mom2two Jul 9, 2010

    YOu did the right thing, but I wonder if a good afternoon nap would have prevented the meltdowns and fighting. (Always works for me!) Sometimes I think we forget about kids threshold of fatigue, which manifests itself as bad behavior.

  • scotlandlover Jul 9, 2010

    I've about had it with people not respecting other people's opinions and getting nasty.I still think lynda was a little harsh but that's what I think.Obviously,a lot of you have a different view and that's just fine.
    It is possible that Lynda did not want to go to the fireworks so she threatened them with that.Otherwise,why did she wait so long(all day)to punish them.She and her husband should have started way earlier,in my view,and then they would have had a nice night.Obviously,she feels guilty or she wouldn't have writen this article.
    You all bicker back and forth and accuse each other of having kids"that destroy toys at Wal-Mart"and not being good parents.
    I thought this was an opinion forum.Obviously,your opinion only seems to matter when everyone agrees with Lynda.My time is too valuable for petty people who think they are always right.

  • scotlandlover Jul 9, 2010

    I do plenty.They go to their room,lose priveleges at the beach,and I take away their shows on tv.
    I always follow up on my threats.My kids know mommy means what she says!!
    What idiot said I resort to violence!!!!

  • hpr641 Jul 9, 2010

    I love "the lawlessness continued." I just wonder how long it took for each one to stop believing the other was solely at fault.